I receive a “Healthy Reflections” email every day from Sparkpeople.com. Today’s just hit home with me as a friend has been talking about change a lot lately. Below is the quote that came with the reflection and the reflection itself. Keep reading! You will find my thoughts.
How Well do You Roll with the Punches?
Change is the natural order of the world. When something tries to stand against the force of change, it’s eventually destroyed. Cliffs are eroded, trees are uprooted, granite cracks. People can crack too. For us to grow and live–to flourish–it takes adaptation and learning. Stubborn attachment to a single set of “knowledge” or way of doing things leads to stagnation of the mind and spirit. Remember to keep an open mind to new people and new ideas. Challenge yourself to always be learning something new. Focus on the possibilities of a fresh start, instead of hanging on to old frustrations. Sails are made with cloth for a reason. When they’re stiff, winds beat against them until they tear. But if the sails are relaxed and workable, the wind can take you to places you’ve never been before.
Whatever is flexible and flowing will tend to grow; whatever is rigid and blocked will wither and die.
– Tao Te Ching, Lao Tsu’s teachings
For whatever reason, as adults, people tend to not like change. We settle into our jobs, our lives and never question anything as we want the status quo to continue. What we seldom realize, until we embrace the fact that change happens with or without us, is that the status quo may not be good for us. The status quo may be holding us back from what we are really suppose to be doing in life. The status quo may be keeping us in relationships that are not good for us or for the others in them.
By embracing change, we can learn to be like the sails in the reflection above. We can realize that we do not need to beaten down or torn apart by life and its changes but can roll and flow with what comes to us.
While a lot of people who know me think I am rather rigid – I live by my calendar, I really love to do spontaneous things. I just, much against the definition, try to plan my spontaneous things. I like to know that a new learning goal will involve a class or two and when that class will take place. I like to know that I have time in my schedule to spend with new friends and with old friends and, when possible, with both old and new friends together.
If you cringe at the word change, learn to not. Learn to embrace what comes your way. Learn to love your life regardless of whether it goes where you think it will or is blown a different direction by the prevailing winds.