I am not as concerned, although the question do we want to have it all is slightly associated with this question, with the have it all question today. I know that the have it all question has plagued discussions between all kinds of people. My question is do we – as in women and mothers specifically – try to do it all.
You are probably thinking I may already know the answer to this question. I certainly try to do it all. Let’s take yesterday as an example. I am a West Virginia University alumni. While I do not get to see the Mountaineers play frequently, I try to watch when they are on in my area. So yesterday, the day after Thanksgiving, consisted of the following “want to dos.”
- Breakfast with my sister before she left to go back to New Jersey
- Laundry as the college kid was going to need to take all that clothing back to school with him
- My friend Gary’s open studio (Gary Rith’s Pottery)
- A side trip to Ithaca to walk The Commons
- Home to make dinner
- The WVU-Pitt football game, more commonly known as The Backyard Brawl
- A gig at a local bar that my friend’s son and husband were playing
Needless to say, I got a bit tired watching the football game. Granted, I made the mistake of watching the game in my bedroom. I fell asleep and missed a very exciting ending to the game and slept through the gig.
So this morning, a friend said to me that I try to do it all and then crash in the middle of my plans. I do listen to my body. If I am tired, I will crash without a doubt. I have done it many times, including last night.
So, the question is, do we try to do it all?
Yes, we have moments of trying to do it all. I have days where I am relentless on getting through my to-do-list. I have other days where I sit down and do absolutely nothing. Those days I usually hold my babies and feel content. I think both days are important to experience, yet should not occur too often. Moderation is important, right?
Ambrosia – you are so right. We need both those types of days. I cannot wait to have the “hang with the kids” days when I get them. Moderation is the key. I like that so much more than the word “balance.”
Yes. Which is why we fail. Repeatedly. Not that I’ve ever been there, or anything…
Why is it that we do it over and over and expect a different result? Was it Twain who said that was the definition of a fool? Because that is me – a fool.
Yes. I try, at least, and I fail over and over again. when do you think I’ll figure it out and stop trying? 🙂
xo
If I am any example, figuring it out doesn’t come too soon.
Yes. And if I hadn’t tried to do it all all day today, I’d have much more energy to write something useful here.
At least you were still up at 10:16, Jen. I crawled into bed with a book at 8 and had the lights off at 9.