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Mark Twain Inspired

I often find myself thinking about song lyrics or quotes and how they fit in my life.  Today, I came upon the quote below, by Mark Twain, and am fixed on it as a way of life.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

This quote speaks to me for several reasons that are currently moving within my life.  I just acknowledged that yesterday would have been my 25th wedding anniversary if my marriage had lasted that long.  As I said yesterday, I love my life.  It would have been different if my marriage had lasted 25 years but I am not sure it would have been better.

My 30th high school reunion is this coming weekend.  When I look back at where I was 30 years ago, there are many things I think I would have done by now that I have not.  I never would have anticipated going to this reunion alone – although, as my sister says, what is the point of taking someone who knows nothing about you back then.  I am not the same person I was 30 years ago.  I would never want to be that age again.

The words of Twain speak to adventure and dreams which I have squelched over the years.  I plan to loosen my scheduling of life and let the winds carry me where they may.

Shopping

I am not the main character of  Confessions of a Shopaholic.  I actually shy away from shopping.  I like to do it alone and in my own time frame but I did do some recent shopping with my sister and mother when they were in town.

I had previously been to Coldwater Creek, located in The Shoppes at Pierce Hill in Vestal, and found that I really like some of their products and really dislike some of their products.  With that said, I never fail to find something I like enough to purchase when I am there.  I also love their sales staff as they are attentive and treat me like I am going to spend $1000, not the $50 or so I may be able to spend at that time.

Today, as my mother and sister walked in, there were also other women discussing online marketing with the sales associates.  I was not trying to listen but the one woman was rather loud.  All three had been shopping and did leave the store with purchases.  They were discussing blogging, Facebook and Twitter.  I love all three of those internet phenomenon but am not looking to be bombarded with advertising from all of these.

So today I left Coldwater Creek with a short-sleeved crocheted sweater with a tank attached under it.  It looks good on me and I love it.  My sister left with a beautiful mug set and a beautiful plate set.

While I think that any Coldwater Creek store would benefit from additional internet marketing, I am not sure that there is a need to hire anyone to do so.  They just need more customers that love it there.

An Anniversary

As a single forty-plus year old woman, today is bittersweet. I love my life. I love my kids. And, I know that I have grown over the past years by being single more than I would ever have grown as a married person. Yet, I still feel a small pang of remorse, regret – no, I am not sure either of those words is what I am looking for – as today would be my 25th wedding anniversary.

On July 7, 1984, I wore a long-sleeved ivory dress down the aisle at St. Paul’s Roman Catholic Church in Norwich, New York. I had been a Catholic just over a year, having found the Catholic church to feel like home to me when I was in my first year at West Virginia University.

Many things have changed since that sunny, hot July afternoon. The church itself has physically changed. The door I entered and walked into the church proper is no longer a door. The altar is at that end of the building and people enter from where the altar was in 1984.

My marriage has ended.  While I have six wonderful children to show for the hard work that was my marriage, it was not meant to last.  We were not the same people in 1997 as we were in 1984 and the two people we had become were not meant to be together.

I do not wish I were married at this moment in time.  I do not wish I had never been married.  I do, though, with a bit of angst, remember what I was doing 25 years ago today.

Just  quick preface – I started this post on November 3, 2008.  I added to it last on July 6, 2009.  I have decided I need to publish it and then work through the rest of the journey as time allows.  Reasoning is two fold:  (1)it will make the post shorter than if I do the entire journey in one post and (2)I want to start getting drafts off the draft list and onto my site.

Evidently, my body was made for bearing children – at least at that point in my life.  I carried the twins full term, delivering them on the morning of January 24, 1987.  I cursed every day at my doctor, every day after Christmas.  I only wanted to wait until Christmas.  My next door neighbor was due the beginning of January.  We had a huge snowstorm.  I went out and shoveled – anything to get those babies to deliver.  I was tipping the scales at 212 or thereabouts.  I am maybe 5′5″ (1.65m) so was not very comfortable doing anything with that much weight on my body.

Lo and behold, the shoveling did not help.  I started going to my OB/GYN every couple of days.  I swear I saw more of him than I did my family – between appointment time and waiting room time.  He was thinking about setting an appointment for a c-section.  I wanted to wait.  Instead, I went back to the hospital for another ultrasound.  This may seem like fun to those of you out there but here I was with what I would soon find out was over 13 pounds of baby pushing on my bladder.  Getting it full enough for the ultrasound was not easy.  Worse was when I drank too much water prior to the ultrasound.  I would get in there and be handed a cup with a line on it – fill it this much.  I was ready to burst!  And cuss at the radiologist.

I didn’t feel perfect on January 23rd.  We went to get my grandmother as she was going to stay with the little one while we were at the hospital.  Early the morning of January 24, off we went to Lourdes.  I didn’t have any really bad contractions so didn’t really realize how far along I was until I was in a birthing room.

I vividly recall an argument in the hallway.  The nurse was on the phone with my OB/GYN, who happened to be in surgery with another patient.  He wanted me sent to radiology.  She was sure that I would give birth downstairs if I went to radiology.  The compromise, something that was common in 1987 but is probably not allowed nowadays, was to bring a portable xray machine into the birthing room.  One of the twins was still breech and that meant a c-section, the first of three but I didn’t find that out for years.

I have a whole roll of color pictures from the twins’ births, yet I missed the entire thing.  The anesthesiologist put me under a local and I was out.  When I awoke in recovery, the nurse proceeded to answer my question about the weight and sex of the babies with what I was sure was someone else’s birth.  I had had a boy who weighed 7 pounds and 15 ounces – a normal birth weight for any singleton – and a girl who weighed 5 pounds and 11 ounces – a large weight for a twin in 1987.  The pregnancy, thanks to a lot of bedrest and disability, had gone 38 and 1/2 weeks.

Getting into any kind of fitness routine or healthy eating was near impossible with three kids under 2 1/2.  To top that off, I went back to work when the twins were eight weeks old.  I had been working prior to their birth and my disability leave in September.  Due to the disability starting at 26 weeks and my carrying the twins almost full term, I had to go back as soon as possible or lose my position.

I also started traveling for work so my focus was on finding a good nanny as I couldn’t possible get three kids up and get themselves, their father and myself ready for work in the morning.  We went through some nannies and I started to watch what I was eating.  I didn’t want to stay this weight forever.  The twins were nursing but I had to have my wisdom teeth out.  That was the perfect time, in my mind, to let the milk dry up as I was already supplementing with formula due to Andrew’s size and Elise’s lack thereof.  The twins were six months old and I was suddenly neither pregnant nor nursing.

I started an eating plan that the receptionist at work was using.  It was a knock-off of a diet center plan.  It involved eating specific foods and taking lots of supplements.  I am not sure this was the best way but it was working I was shedding pounds but not as fast as I would like.  In retrospect, the pounds were coming off because all I was doing was dieting.  I was not managing to get a whole lot of exercise into my life, just eating a set diet.

I was getting down in weight, but was still 40 pounds more than I weighed at the start of my first pregnancy when I found out the wonderful news.  I was pregnant again.  I was due to have baby number 4 just 16 months after the twins were born.  I still needed to get fit and find some exercise to put in my life but it was going to take a back seat to feeding a healthy baby.

Everyone is familiar with Sunday being a day of rest.  My week had been rather full so I was definitely thinking that yesterday was going to be a day of rest.  Little did I know when the day started that I was going to not only have a restful day but also a relaxing massage.

I had driven by 2719 NYS Route 26 many times but had not really paid much attention.  My mother and aunt were looking for somewhere in the area to get a massage on short notice as Mom is only in town until Wednesday morning.  They had tried the chiropractor’s office in Whitney Point, as my aunt lives in Lisle, but there was a machine.  This is when I remember the sign at 2719 NYS Route 26 in Maine – Zen Garden Healing Arts.  On my way home that night, I slowed to see if I could find the phone number.  It was too dark but I did find their web site – http://www.zengardenhealingarts.com/Home_Page.html.

Mom called on Friday of a long weekend and got voicemail.  She left her cell number, which is a California number, and before I was up on the Fourth, she and Nancy had massage appointments for Sunday.  So, I am still planning at least half a quiet, restful day on Sunday as they have massage appointments at 1 and 2 pm so the earliest they will show up at my house is 3pm.  Then came the call!  The massage therapist could give me a massage at 3.

Off I went to Maine.  First, Dacia, the LMT, showed me to a changing room and I got into this wonderful robe.  Then, she heated up rocks and put both my mother’s and my feet into a warm water, with rose petals, bath that was beautiful.  At first, I thought it was hot but it was fantastic!  I may have to get myself some rocks as it was not only a great feeling, my feet loved moving over those rocks.

Dacia Legge, LMT sets a wonderful mood with music and aromatherapy.  The hour massage was so relaxing, with oils.  I am at a total loss for words to describe it as I felt so renewed when I got up from the table.

Changes in Life

When high school graduation of one of my children rolls around, I always think about purposes in life.  We anticipate that these children, which is really all high school graduates are, know what they want to do for the rest of their lives.  Is this really fair?  I am thirty years removed from my high school graduation and still don’t know for certain, for 100% what I want to be when I grow up.

As we grow, we change.  We change our outlooks.  We change our careers.  We change, period!

Lately, as I run, I have had thoughts of what is yet to come – in my life, in my children’s lives, in my friends’ lives.  We all change as we grow and grow as we change.  A few songs have hit home from the mp3 player but none as potently as Joe Bonamassa’s  ”Waiting For Me.”  I have held off on finishing this entry, thinking I would find the words somewhere but have not.  Now I am going to listen to the refrain on my mp3 and let you see what I mean.

Maybe I’m crazy for chasing that dream

It hasn’t been easy like some make it seem

I can’t help but feeling my best is yet to be

Somewhere there’s something better waiting for me

No, I have not been out test driving new cars, though that is a possibility.  I have been very busy with my fifth child’s high school graduation and then the big party so what have I been test driving – a new type of vacuum cleaner!  You all will love it!!

The Vroom Solo is produced by H-P Products which is the parent company for two different brands of central vacuuming systems.  I agreed to test it based on the reputation of these brands but know that Vroom Solo is going to become a brand name that everyone associates with vacuuming.

The Vroom Solo is meant to go in a cupboard so there is some installation required.  This was probably my biggest issue as I don’t own my home so the installation was not an easy one as there is some minor modifications recommended in the installation.  After some discussions with the company, I managed to put my unit outside a cupboard.  It is working great and I would have a pic of it but my camera isn’t working.  Look for one to be added at a later date.

While getting ready for graduation, there were a lot of things going on and there were a ton of little messes – not to mention all the grass that was tracked in during the party.  I never once had to wonder how long it was going to take me to drag the upright out of the closet and find an available outlet.  I never once had to wonder where I left the broom.  I just went to the side of the cupboard and started the Vroom Solo.  The hose is 24 feet long so I didn’t have to worry about not being able to reach.  I just vroomed up the messes.  I don’t know if I have ever had as easy a clean up.

One of the biggest issues in my house is storage.  There are two closets on the first floor and one on the second floor.  There is a room I affectionately call the laundry room where I can tuck some stuff but my garage is my only storage area.  Many are the times when company is coming and I have to put the upright in the garage for storage.  When a problem happens or mud is tracked in, I am hauling out to the garage to get the upright.  Not anymore!  I am going over, next to my cabinet and getting the Vroom hose.  It is so much easier than the upright.

I want to mention that you can all go over to Vroom Your Room and register for the chance to win a Vroom Solo.

I am going to be putting the Vroom Solo through some additional “testing” as my life goes on this summer.  Look for updates as to how well it holds up to a Conroy Summer.

It’s Over!

Yes, there are still parties to come.  For the most part, though, it is OVER!!!

Ben’s graduation was last Friday.  His graduation party was last night.  I may be exhausted but it is a happy exhaustion.  Below are pics – well, not of the party as I never picked the camera up once people started showing up, but of the set up.

Graduation 2009

Maine-Endwell Central School District graduated the Class of 2009 last night.  The past week has been a blur of activity for the senior class as they have gone from prom to senior trips – two day trips – to senior awards night to graduation.

Last evening we heard from five members of the Class of 2009 – four in prepared remarks and one in song.  It was a wonderful celebration of the last 13 years of the lives of these young people and a send off to a new beginning.

I have found memories of going to The Cider Mill Playhouse as a child to see Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol.”  The setting is one that most children knew from the field trip to watch the cider being pressed.  The performance, while peppered with local talent, may have a star in it – or, as likely, a friend.

Last night, I took my 14 year old son and my mother to The Cider Mill Playhouse.  We saw Sherman Edwards’ “1776.”  While the show ran about three hours with intermission, it was rivetting.

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Last night, the first night of the production’s final weekend, was a full house.  There may have been a seat here or there but it was full.  The cast was amazing.  I cannot imagine where all those male voices were found as they all song wonderfully.

My mother, who lives outside of Palm Springs, was impressed with the production.  She said it was wonderful considering it was being done in Endicott.  Yes, she did use to live here.  My son was enthralled the entire time.

I truly recommend that you all stop by The Cider Mill Playhouse – if not between now and Sunday – for a performance soon.

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