I have known that this day was coming. Both of my parents have health issues. One manages the issues through diet, exercise and medication. The other tends to ignore the medication prescribed, eats when and what is wanted, and ignores general health issues. Both are adults, 67 and 70 respectively. Yes, they are divorced and both are remarried. Both live in different parts of the country – one in the southwest and one in the northeast.
The overwhelming question this morning is when do your parents become your children. My father lives about an hour from me – only about 40 miles but nothing but two lane road to get there. He works in my general area. Last night, my sister who lives near him – in the same town – called. There was an issue at work. Could I call there? Could I call my stepmom? Could I go over?
My father’s health has been declining. He tends to ignore the doctor. He needs to be on a diet for his health issues and needs to be careful what he eats. I have had these discussions with him but I am ignored even more quickly than the doctor. Things are about to change. When an ambulance needs to be called and I need to go to the office and take him home – I actually only took him to eat and my other sister came with her husband and got him, I am going to get more involved.
The question is am I within my “duties” as a daughter to insist on things. I told him, point blank, last night that he was going to start doing things differently. I also made it very clear that if I was making the decision, not my stepmother, he would have been in the ER last night. I also made it clear he was to see his physician today. Yes, there is a storm coming. I don’t care. This is not something to mess with. TODAY!
So, am I right to assert myself? Do I just step back and let him continue to go down the wrong road?