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Accidents, Pain and Life

A warning in advance:  this may be too much information for some people.  It is also long.  Not sure why it is long, though.

 

For those of you who do not know, I had a little accident about ten days ago – eleven days to be precise.  Previously, my oldest and I had gone apple picking.  I had 37 pounds of apples in my house so when I saw a cinnamon apple chip recipe somewhere, I tried it.  The first time, the chips were not only extremely delicious but there were no incidents.  So, on a particular Wed, after a 5:45 am swim, a run to kick boxing and 8 am kick boxing, I decided to haul out the mandolin slicer and make some more apple chips.  Truthfully, no one was home and I actually wanted to get some this time.  I didn’t much chance to test taste the first batch.

 

I should have really thought through using something like a mandolin without anyone else at home.  I had used it before and had no troubles so figured I was good.  I started out slicing apples.  The first indication that this was not going to go like the first time was that my apple slices were thicker.  I did not know why at the time.  I finally figured it out but that was part of the problem in the end.  I looked down and had cut the heel of my hand.  The cut was clean and not too deep.  I washed my hand off and kept cutting.  I know – a slightly more pragmatic person would have stopped right there.  I didn’t have a full cookie sheet of apple slices yet.  No stopping me.

 

Then, I sliced into two fingers.  These did not stop bleeding as easily as the heel of my hand did.  I washed my hand with soap and water.  I could not tell if the cuts were deep or not.  I wrapped my hand up in a dish towel, hoping the pressure would stop the bleeding.  I used my left hand to put the cinnamon on the apple slices and put them in the oven.  The bleeding had yet to stop so I wrapped the fingers in gauze and decided to jump in the shower.  If I was going to need stitches, I had yet to shower from all my exercising so I should be slightly less smelly.  I held my right hand – have I ever told you I am right handed? – above my head as I showered quickly.  Still, the bleeding had not stopped.

 

I decided then and there that I was going to need at least a stitch or two.  I did not have a car at home so I started calling friends I know that either do not work during the day or work retail and may have been home.  I could call a cab but figured it would be easier if I got a ride to the walk-in.  My friend Jen came through and picked me up for the just over four mile – yes, it is a route I have run in the past – trip to the walk-in.  I had to spend a good part of the four mile trip convincing Jen she didn’t need to stay with me at the walk-in.  She agreed finally if I promised to call if my daughter was not done working when I finished.  She did not want me walking home from the walk in.

 

Well, let me tell you cold and flu season must be in full swing early this year.  First, the walk-in was short-handed due to illness.  Second, the walk-in was packed with sick people.  This is one of my biggest reasons for not going to the doctor’s office in the winter/cold-flu season.  I don’t like being around all those germs.

 

Second thing to tell you is that tetanus shots hurt.  I could not come close to telling the walk-in doctor the last time I had a tetanus shot.  Most likely, it was some time near the birth of my last child who is now 16.  Anyway you look at it, I was due for a tetanus shot.  My arm, over the course of the next few days, actually hurt more than my hand did at times.

 

Anyway, I need more than a stitch or two.  I had two stitches in a knuckle on my middle/third finger.  I had four stitches in the knuckle on my pinky/fifth finger.  There is also a spot near the nail on my middle finger that had had the top layer of skin taken off by the mandolin that could not be stitched.

 

I am amazed at the things I use my pinky finger for in life.  Typing became painful.  I actually use all ten digits on my hands for typing.  I was forced to hunt and peck with my right hand and that was a problem for me.  Also, hitting the shift key or the enter key with my right hand pinky hurt.  There was also the joy of not being able to get my right hand totally wet.  You see, the stitches I had were the old kind that would have to be taken out after ten days.  They were not to get wet – as best as possible.

 

The hand hurt for a while.  The antibiotic I was given – just in case – was ugly in side effects.  The bigger issue is all the things that I do with my right hand that I don’t realize.  Did the injury stop me?  Yes, in some ways.  I did not run the half marathon I wanted to run last Sunday.  I ran a 5K instead.  I had to stop swimming mornings for ten days but am headed back to the pool tomorrow morning.

 

The moral of my story – Use the guard on your mandolin.  See a doctor when necessary.  Don’t let something small – a little pain or an injury – stop you from living life.


Comments on a Blog

I love having actual conversations with the people who leave comments on my blog.  I have been known to go back to blogs I comment on and continue the discussion with those writers.  See a pattern here?  I like to discuss, converse about, dissect with others –  about almost topic.

So I am suddenly looking at the number of comments on my blog differently.  All almost 2,500 of them have not been made by the visitors to my virtual home.  A good portion of them have been written by me.  I like that but then came Momalom.com’s second Five for Ten challenge.

Then comes the realization that I cannot keep up with the blog reading, let alone the comments on others’ sites or the conversations on my own.  So, as a sort of apology, I want to thank you all for reading what I have been writing recently.  AND, I want to tell you all I am still reading Five For Ten posts.  I have been overwhelmed by comments and blogs and just lost.

I needed to take some time to recharge.  My mind was in overdrive and I couldn’t get it back where it was going a reasonable speed.  I had so many things going on in life and in virtureal life – Thanks for that word, Aidan – that I would open up to write and just stare at the blank screen.

I have found a wonderful way to recharge – just leave it all behind.  I took some great day trips, read some good and not so good books, saw a movie at midnight.  Life is getting back to normal and so will my blog this week.


Life Happens

I have a fairly full house now and have decided life happens.  I had all these great plans for posting about events all week that surround Easter.  What have I done?  One post and lots of work.  No need for a digital diet like Kristen at Motherese talked about.  I just let life happen.

Looking at the calendar, I truly think the only really busy day was Wednesday but for some reason, I have been unable to get here.  I have all these great posts floating in my brain, outlines or notes jotted on pieces of everything that I can find when the idea pops up, and no time to type.  I tried, last night, to open the laptop as I watched some mindless television but I didn’t get back into the house until 9 pm – my normal “let’s go to bed” time – so I was a bit tired.  I finally, after a few emails exchanged with a friend, closed the laptop – letting it install its first Windows updates – and went to sleep.  I do not even recall if I watched the entire show.

On top of everything that is going on, I have an extra body in the house for the upcoming week.  Good thing it is going to be nice out for a while so I can escape.  #5 is home on another week long break.  Truthfully, he has Friday classes but one was canceled, another the professor didn’t care about absences and a third he already made arrangements for notes.  I have put him off since his break in February about coming home again.  With his sport over, he has a bit of time on his hands and I think he should spend it at college.  After all, finals are over May 19 and then he is home for the summer.

Anyway, as soon as I find some time, I have a post about being a taxi driver for #6 on Wednesday.  You will not believe how many miles I put on the car getting everything that one 15 year old had to do done.  I have a post about Tuesday night’s concert by the Basically Bach Ensemble – photos with this one.  I have some beautiful photos of the sunset on Wednesday night on one of my many trips over the hill with #6.  Boy was he pissed when I pulled off the side of the road to take photos!  I also have a post on Holy Thursday and, am sure, one on Good Friday.  I have one I would like to do if I can manage to get what I want as far as images on the hills I run around my house.

That all said, have a great weekend if I don’t get back to the computer.  I have a huge dinner to prepare on Sunday.  These posts will happen.  I am just not sure when.  I miss you all but … life happens.


The Tulips

As I sit waiting for my oldest, I think I should have brought my brackets – men’s and women’s NCAA basketball.  Or I should have brought my lap top.  I could be writing.  Instead I am scribbling words on a magazine subscription card.

I just heard the weather forecast on the radio.  I am thrilled!  I may be incorrect.  Yes,  there may be something I am not good at – Ha! Ha!  I swore when this spell of warmth started that we would see snow again.  Technically, we couls as nights are cold.  It does not, at least in the short term, seem we will.  Highs in the 60′s for a few days, rain possible at the end of the full day seems spring  may be here to stay.

Yesterday, as I did some home maintenance, I noticed the tulips had pushed a good few inches through the ground.  I wonder how these fragile greens can poke through hand, sometimes still frozen, ground.  Where did they get their strength, in their fragility?

Spring bloomers, like the tulips, have an inner strength like many people I know.  These people are fragile yet still have the strength to push through life’s trials and tribulations.

There are those with health issues – chronic illness, seasonal sickness.  He may stumble due to this health but ultimately he continues to parent, to work.  He has those few inches of stem poking out of the hard ground.

There are those who are facing financial problems.  She can barely make ends meet but manages to pay the bills until that month when, like trying to poke through totally frozen ground, everything happens at once – the electric disconnect, the cable/phone/internet disconnect, the car insurance all due at once.  The money, that evil necessity that has never been the sparkle in her eye, is coming but not at the right time, not in time.  She manages.  She knows who can loan her what she needs.  She know which bills can be put off.  She breaks through the ground slowly, hesitantly, like the tulips, hoping a freeze is not on the way.

Every now and then, words just flow out without a lesson necessarily.  I would say that we should all realize we don’t know what is happening with our perennials anymore than we do with our neighbors.  We help the flowers by covering them when a freeze is imminent.  We need to help our neighbors when possible, too.


March? Already? Really?

Seriously?

Where have the first two months of the year gone?  I can’t seem to figure out what has happened as it is March and it doesn’t seem – other than when looking out the window – that it could possibly truly be March.

I just updated the family calendar with a variety of upcoming commitments.  March is looming as a big month here at Chez Nicki.  I am running my first half marathon.  I am also going to a couple of different lectures at local universities and other locations.  #6 is in the midst of drama rehearsal for the high school’s production of “Our Town” mid-April.  #6 is being confirmed on March 18th.  My absolutely favorite high school concert of the year is the Prism Concert which is in March this year.  Work is ramping up to be very busy.  The growing season is getting closer – well, at least in some parts of the world.

The past two months have been filled with work and family, training and a 5K race, fun and frivolity.  I hope that the next month continues this track.

I guess my point in writing all this is to ask you how the first two months of 2010 have treated you.  I have a list of blog posts to write as I had two rather big days this past weekend and I know you all want to know about them…LOL!  I also have a post coming on family as it will be one year ago this Wednesday that my father died.  And, thanks to Kristen at Motherese, there may be a post coming on potty training.

Were January and February all you had anticipated?  Is March winding up to be a busy month?  How is your year going so far?


A Love List to My Life

Between Kelly Diels‘s Operation Secret Valentine, Momalom‘s Love It Up Challenge, a post on How to Write a Love List at Em and Lo‘s and Big Little Wolf‘s suggestions for celebrating V Day on a budget, I am again thinking about love and today about my life.  So, here is my love list to my life.

  • I love the mounds of laundry – both dirty and clean – as they mean we have clothing to wear.
  • I love my kitchen sink full of dishes I should wash as it means we have had food to eat.
  • I love the snow outside as it makes the sunlight look twice as bright.
  • I love running in the cold as it makes me feel alive – actually, any running makes me feel alive.
  • I love that #5 took classwork with him to the conference championships.  He is finally becoming a student.
  • I love that #6 is taking the reigns in what he thinks he wants to do later in life.
  • I love a particular good friend as I know life is not easy but this friend is making the best of it.
  • I love that #3 has a great feeling about her Teach for America interview that was on Monday.
  • I love that #1′s car only needs a new water pump as it could be much worse.
  • I love that I got to see #2 yesterday, even if just briefly.
  • I love that #4 is all set to move after she graduates this spring and is continuing her education.
  • I love my family – regardless of how much I complain about them.
  • I love God – as He has made this life so possible.
  • I love my life.  The ups and downs are annoying but without the valleys, the heights would not seem high.

What’s In Your Wallet?

A friend of mine posed this question on his blog on Friday and I couldn’t help but bite.  I did ask permission first and am slightly scared to delve into this now as I truly have no idea what is in my wallet.  Deena also took the challenge to see what was in her purse.

Let me say, though, that I changed purses this week.  I have always tried to

Former Winter Purse

achieve the “smaller is better” look since having had to cart around a huge purse with child entertainment in it for years.  My usual, until my sister sent me a Coach purse she no longer uses, purse for winter I have had for about four years and it is rather small, purplish in color and leather.  It came with some charms on it but some have been left places, purely by accident.

Black Coach Purse

My sister sent me a black, classic Coach purse.  I could have easily just plopped the former winter purse inside it and called it good but I didn’t.  I moved all items from one to the other.  This new purse is so big I thought I had lost my cell phone last night.  I couldn’t find it in the purse until I returned home and called myself.

Now, men carry wallets and maybe a brief case.  So what is in a man’s wallet is probably different from a woman’s.  That having been said, other than my wallet and a card holder, my purse contains a barrette, hand lotion, three pens, Blistex lip balm, Burt’s Bee Lip Gloss, a Prayer Revolution tag (if you want me to pass this on to you, let me know), several receipts (Sam’s Club, SEFCU, Weis), the invitation to the jewelry party I went to last night and the receipt for the jewelry I bought (this needs to be put in a safe location).

There is a zippered pocket in the purse.  I have, since I cannot find the holder I use to have for them, zippered my business cards in there.  You never know when you will need to give one to someone so must always have them on hand.

In my card holder, I have my driver’s license.  The picture is horrible and ten years old.  I will get a new picture taken this year I think, maybe.  The license is stuck in the card holder.  I cannot get it out.  In the interior part are the following items:  a tax exempt card for NYS Science Olympiad (I am a regional coordinator), the parking ticket from a November trip to Ithaca and use of one of their parking garages, a fortune cookie fortune (Your mind can make your body rich.), two airline frequent flier cards, three hotel frequent stayer cards, ticket stubs ( 2 movies, 1 Dallas Brass concert, 2 high school sporting events, 1 Binghamton Senators game, 1 NCAA hockey regionals, 1 college soccer conference tournament), 2 frequent buyer cards (1 from a jewelry store in New Paltz, NY and 1 from a local gas station for soda of all things), PTSA membership card, 5 business cards (including a bead shop in Corning, NY that I will get back to this spring), and a key tag for my Sephora Beauty Insider account.

Then, comes my wallet.  Now to start with, a woman’s wallet is nothing like a man’s wallet.  A woman may actually have several items in her purse that function as a wallet – a change purse, a card holder, a wallet, a checkbook holder.

I have seven dollars in my wallet, six of it in change and a one dollar bill.  I seldom have cash on me.  Tucked in one part of the wallet is a Cornell hockey ticket, a grocery receipt, a jewelry store receipt and a Dick’s coupon that expires at the end of the month.  Laying out in the wallet is the receipt from last weekend’s dinner with the girls and a grocery receipt.  Then in the card area that you can see here are health insurance cards (family is so big I need two), ScoreCard from Dick’s, Hollywood Video card, CVS ExtraCare card and my Sam’s Club membership card.  Behind the receipts shown are more cards:  a debit/credit card (just one as that is all I ever use), Starbucks card (duly registered with the Starbucks.com as I get free stuff that way – like soy in my lattes), two grocery store cards, a Broome County prescription plan card (all county residents got one), and a credit union access card.

In the back, where my cash should be, is more stuff.  Two ugly Starbucks cards – I don’t know why I keep these except they have a combined $0.27 on them and that can come in handy some days.  I have a thank you card from a child who was running in the 2009 Team in Training half marathon and raising money.  There is a 2009 Binghamton University basketball ticket – one of the last things my father gave me before his death last year.   I have three business cards with that ticket – all from people I saw at the funeral.  There are three expired coupons and two parking tags from visits to a local college (I think I kept thinking I could just use the old one if I kept it).  There is a credit card receipt from The Galley dated 12/29 and the last thing is a business card for Freevillemusic.com that I was given in December.


“Ecstatic Experiences”

I visit Ronna Detrick’s blog RENEGADEconversations daily.  Her entry for January 1, 2010 was short and sweet and has stuck with me for days, mulling its way around in my mind, my heart and my soul.  I truly think you should all head over to read this entry as it will not take long.

Ronna’s blog entry focuses on an Emily Dickinson quote.  Dickinson is one of my favorite American poets.  Here I will share the quote and then my thoughts.

The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.  - Emily Dickinson
My soul has spent time not open, not ajar.  I spent many years thinking that I was open to experience but was not.  The past two to three years I have left that door ajar.  I have welcomed what has come in.  I have lived to my fullest.  I want to continue this so will be working on an art piece based around this quote.
Thank you, Ronna, for your inspiration!!

Your Contributions

The original thought for this post was going to be to discuss what contributions you can make.  Unfortunately, with the end of the year upon us, I am afraid that everyone is going to be thinking the contributions that help with your taxes – those things that have to be done in the new year.

No, I am talking more about the contributions you make to others.  I am talking about the contributions you make to society, to your family, to your friends.  I am talking about how will people look at you when you are gone.

With the end of the year upon us and the end of the decade also upon us, we should all be thinking about what we have accomplished and how is that measured.  Do we measure how accomplished we are by how much we make?  I hope not as that puts me at the bottom of the barrel in most cases.  If you have status or fame, is that how you measure accomplishment?  Again, let’s hope not.

Maybe, as an email I received discussed, we should measure success by the number of lives we have touched.  For some, this is easy.  Parents who are doing their jobs touch their children’s lives.  If they have taught their children the values and morals that I grew up on and have hopefully passed on to my children, they will touch lives they do not even know about as their children touch lives.

Teachers touch lives and help mold and shape these lives.  Many a teacher will tell you that they have not only touched the lives of their students but the lives those students have touched as well.

So what are you contributions?  How do you measure accomplishment and success?  Do you touch, mold, shape lives?


What Do You Want in Life?

I have been reading a lot of blogs lately where the entries are based around what the writer wants from life.  Most of these have to do with relationships and they have all got me thinking.  What do I want from life?

This is not a new question to me.  My life has changed and continues to do so but am I that fairy tale loving person who wants a happy ending?  Or, does my happy ending look different than the fairy tale?

My story is definitely different from the fairy tale.  There are few happy endings in it.  You can read some musings on the fairy tale at The Wild Thing’s blog. My marriage ended after 12 1/2 years and six children.  The “baby” was two at the time.  Raising six kids aged two to 12 on my own took a different kind of concentration.

Did I totally drop “my life” for my kids?  Yes and no, I had a few relationships right after the marriage ended that were good.  One or two had true potential but they did not last.  Did their ending hurt?  You know it.  Did it make me decide that relationships were not worth the pain?  Definitely not.

One of the biggest issues with the two true potential relationships I had those ten to twelve years ago was whether I was willing to let him know what I was feeling.  I love you is hard to say when your heart is mending.  I am not sure if that mending ever finishes once there is a break.  The one man knew how I felt but I knew that our relationship was not what was in his best interest at that time in his life.  I let him go, painful as it may have been.  After all, what more does love mean than keeping the other person’s best interests in sight?

The other man didn’t know how I felt.  He knew we were dating.  He knew we had fun together.  He did not know I had fallen in love with him.  Would things have turned out differently had I told him?  I so don’t know.  I don’t know if that would have pushed him away or if those three words would have drawn him closer.  We keep in touch.  He is now remarried and loves the woman who is in his life.  In the long run, I do not see how I would have fit in that life but who knows?  I did not say what I could have easily said.  I am here and he is there.

So the question remains, do you know what you want?  Do I know what I want?  The only thing I am 100% positive about is that I know I do not want marriage again.  I may want the relationship, the daily conversation, the holding at night, the looking out for each other, the love but not the institution.

Do you have what you want in life?  Do you know what that is?  Can you put it in words?


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