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Fall Football

What else is there to do in small town America on a fall afternoon, or evening in some cases, than head to the local high school football game? While the weather yesterday was less than ideal, the date was set for the annual Band Day. While our school district has an excellent music program, the band for football contests is generally a small pep band. One home game a year for the last four years, the pep band invites all band members from grade 5 up to join the pep band for Band Day.

 

The music will vary from year to year but the formation is always the same. The group forms an M-E on the football field and then plays a couple pieces. For some of these musicians, it is their first time playing outdoors. For some, it is there first time playing with the “older” kids, many of whom they have never meant.  Below is a selection of photos from Band Day – some from inside rehearsal which started at 10:30 am to in the stands to on the field.

 

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College Issues: What Would You Do?

I was all set to pound out some words today about the 27 year old that ran the Chicago Marathon on Sunday and then, six plus hours later, gave birth to a healthy seven pound baby girl. That was until I logged onto Facebook to find a message from my 20 year old son to call him when I got up.

 

The phone call leads me to feel that village or city laws seem to only apply to taxpayers, not to others who live in towns – particularly college towns.

 

My 20 year old leaves in a house in a college town. This house has two three bedroom apartments in it. Each bedroom is leased separately for $500 for the summer and $2,600 for each semester. Since the five college students who are currently living there have moved in, there have been concerns about the building.  First, it was not cleaned after the last tenants moved out. Second, the windows have no screens in them. Third, the locks work intermittently.

 

Anyway, last evening, while my son was on campus for a rehearsal of a musical group he is in, the apartment was broken into by three armed men. Electronics were stolen and at least one resident had a firearm pointed at him. When my son returned home, the police were still there.

 

The question is what do I do as a parent. He can’t move home, although it is only an hour commute to the college. He has a lease that goes through May 31st, 2012. I am going to give the rental company a day to replace all locks. I am going to give the city police (I believe it is a city but it is small) time to investigate and see if any of the stolen merchandise is recovered. This is the time when a parent – whether I am talking about a college student or an older child – feels helpless.


Wineglass Marathon – Race Recap II: The Actual Race

Sunday morning dawned – actually pre-dawn – wet and cold. A quick check of the weather web site indicated it was 41F and raining at the start line. Better yet, the wind chill was 36F. Now came the big decisions. Keep the short sleeve shirt? Hope the rain will end? Wear a jacket? I put on my shorts, shirt and shoes and went to the kitchen to make my oatmeal with ground flaxseed in it. I was concerned I wouldn’t want to eat this as it would be too warm out but no chance of that being an issue.

The past two years I have not run but have spectated at Wineglass. Because of this, I have always driven to the start just outside of Bath, New York. This year would be different. Steve and I would drive to Corning, park and take the shuttle bus to Bath. Buses were lined up and filling as we came out of the parking garage. Many had coffee from the $5 breakfast that could be purchased. A race official poked her head in the window. She had an Olympic trial qualifier, actually someone who was trying to hit the time for this, and her pacer. There was a bike involved. Our driver seemed a bit perplexed at first but finally said meet me at the back of the bus with the bike. The bus filled and off we headed. It was still dark and still rainy. Thankfully, the bus had heat.

Here would be my first issue. When we arrived at the Philips facility in Bath, there were only five porta-potties. I knew this must be a mistake. In previous  years, there had been rows of them. Also, on the bus ride, I had sat with a man from outside DC. He had been at the start line on Saturday and said there was a large white tent. No tent was visible at the facility. I opted to use the bathroom while I could. It was still more than an hour before the race start but I was sure I would have to go again. Then, I understood. There was shuttle from the Philips plant to the new start line about 6/10ths of a mile up a side road. The biggest issue in the buses in my mind was that none had any signage. I do seriously believe that a sign in the bus window of those in Corning that indicated whether they were headed to the marathon or the half marathon start and in the shuttle to the start in bath bus would have made a lot of difference. Because there was no signage and no real communication of the fact that the bus from Corning was not dropping runners directly at the start line, there was significant confusion at the start area.

Now, the marathon sold out with a cap of 2,000 runners. There was hardly any place at the start line to keep these people out of the elements. We huddled together under the white tent prior to moving to a garage that someone opened for us as more runners arrived.

Even the Pacers were cold

So cold couldn't hold the camera steady

Binghamton Runners in the Garage

The final decisions were made and I kept my Nike jacket on and a rain poncho like the one Steve has on in the photo above (thanks, Steve, for having an extra around), shed my warm up pants and put my bag into the truck to go to the start line. This truck was not manned by anyone but maybe the organizers didn’t think this was an important item.

About 7:45 am, I headed up the hill to the start. I went past all the pacers as I was going to start at the back.

The 3:05 Pacer

Then, comes complaint number two. Because of the confusion about getting to the start line and the shuttle bus, people were still down at the Philips location – the start for the previous 29 runnings of the Wineglass Marathon. I will say that the start line being different had been well communicated. I realized this point but had not realized the end was different until I got a good look at a map of the course. The start, with a good majority of us standing in the rain getting very wet and cold, was held up for 10-15 minutes due to getting all the runners to the start line. This has to be rectified in future years. Hopefully, the weather will not be as bad in the future but that time in the rain and cold is sure to have put the PRs or qualifying times of many “on ice.”

Eventually, the gun went off and we all started moving. I had partnered up or was close to Dawn. She is from Binghamton and we had run the beginning of two half marathons together in August. I knew she would start out faster than I really should but it is nice to have someone with you.  My plan – weird as it may seem – was to be sure to run two two hour 10 milers and that would leave me an hour and a half to get the last 6.2 miles in. My normal 10K race time is about one hour and 12 minutes. My 10K training time is one hour and 20 minutes. I figured this would work.

As is the norm in a race situation, I went out way too fast. My first five miles had a slow mile (mile 5) of 11:30. I know you all are thinking that is slow but that is about average for me. My first mile was 10:25. Whoa!  I hit five miles in just over 55 minutes. I knew in my mind I was going to pay for this at some point in the day. Even in fast training, my best five miler was 57 minutes. About mile 4 I had gotten so warm that I had peeled off my rain poncho and left it along the side of the road. I tried hard to leave it in a pile with others just so it was less pick up for volunteers later. I am not one to throw my energy gel containers or other things on the ground so this was a hard thing for me to do.

The next five miles were in about 59 minutes. I hit ten miles in under two hours. I had four minutes to spare. The plan was working. I had forgotten the whole “I was going too fast” thing. I was very happy. The only thing I could think at that point in time was I was working my plan.  This was regardless of saying earlier in the race, to Dawn, that I didn’t know whose race I was running but I was pretty sure it wasn’t mine.

The weather these ten miles and at least another four was ugly. The rain would go from a spritz to a downpour. I had on a jacket that was totally soaked through. My arms and core were cold even though I knew the temperature was rising a little. When the wind would blow – and it did, I was downright cold.

Miles 10-13.1 were slowing but I checked my Garmin at the half way point – a part of my spectating the past two years – and I was about 5 minutes faster than my previous half marathon best time. It was 2:33:58. The good news from this is that I do stand a chance of breaking a 2:30 half marathon in the future. My miles were getting slower, though, and I was concerned.

Rain stopped so I could take a photo in race

At the next water stop after the half way point, I ditched my water bottle. I couldn’t stand to hold on to it anymore. Of course, right after that it stopped raining and I wished I had it with me. Miles 13 -20 were tough. I used up that four minutes I banked in the first ten miles and ate up an additional 16 minutes before hitting 20 miles.  I remember passing the 16 mile marking. I had been playing leap frog with a guy and I went past him and said something like only 10 more. That sort of inspired me. I looked at my watch and thought only 10 miles, I can do that. The nagging question in my mind is can I do it in two hours.

Suddenly downhills were starting to hurt. I had to stop and fix my soaking wet sock twice! I was falling apart but was going to finish. About mile 22 I had a small asthma attack. I am not sure what precipitated this. I had not experienced asthma problems since my second half marathon in 2010. This caused me to walk for a quarter of a mile. As I ran under an underpass and onto the bike path, there was a runner sitting in a chair with a volunteer. I was unsure if he was stopping totally or just had some issue he was trying to fix. Trust me, the whole sock issue was easier to fix sitting on the guardrail the second time than trying to balance the first time. He would catch up to me about mile 25. We would urge each other on and he would then head across the final bridge just ahead of me.

Once across the bridge and turning onto Market St, I heard a yell of “Go Nicki.” It was Kristy.  Kristy and Dan had had water and food at about mile six for the TCRC runners. I am so slow I missed them at mile 16 but she was there.  She had rain boots on and still ran a block or two down the street with me. I was so happy to see her.  Just before my family in front of the finish line was Dan with Quinn, his dog. A quick high five to Dan and then realizing my niece Logan had come with my sister and daughter and I will be lucky if there is a picture of me at the finish without tears.

Upon finishing, I was immediately wrapped in an aluminum blanket. This did help me to warm up a bit since I was soaked through every layer I was wearing. Then, the beautiful medal was put over my head and around my neck. This was so much lighter than the medal from my first marathon.

Home, showered and warmer

I am sure I am missing thoughts I had along the race. I know I talked to several other people along the course and I will do some small posts on these people in the future. Good news! While my legs are sore, I am already planning my next races and, yes, my next marathon.


Banned Books Week

September 24th was the beginning of Banned Books Week. This annual event is aimed at celebrating freedom of speech. The reason I write about this is because you and I have probably read a banned book. I know I have and am pretty sure you have also.

 

As I look over a list of 50 banned books, I am laughing as I know that the ones I have listed below were read by my children in public school.

The Handmaid’s Tale  by Margaret Atwood

Native Son by Richard Wright

Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury

I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

The Color Purple by Alice Walker

Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck

To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

Anne Frank: Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank

The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald

Animal Farm by George Orwell

1984 by George Orwell

The Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeck

James and the Giant Peach by Roald Dahl

The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn by Mark Twain

Catcher in the Rye by JD Salinger

These were taken from a list of 50 banned books that everyone should read (here). On this list were also about ten additional books, not counting the Harry Potter books as we have read all and seen the films, that myself or one of my children  has read.

 

My point is we cannot allow someone else to make decisions about what is to be read by others. I should be able to choose what I read. I do think parents should exercise some discretion based on the age of their children but by the time a child is 15, most should be able to make their own choices.


First of the Lasts

On September 12th, four days later than originally thought, the first of many lasts started at my home.  My youngest child started his last year of high school.  Yes, number six is a senior in high school.  Days not consist of reminding him of not only homework but also college applications, job applications and test prep.

 

Unfortunately for number six, this day came later than originally scheduled due to record flooding.  He was scheduled to begin his first day on September 8th when he would have reported for his BOCES placement.  School was closed September 8th and 9th due to road closures and flooding.  Along comes the weekend, receding waters and school begins on Monday.  This must have been very odd for teachers as school in NYS always starts on a Wednesday.

 

While the area is not anywhere near back to normal, a tad bit of normalcy has returned with the start of school. Children have some schedule in their lives.  School is not 100% normal as there are currently no after school activities but that will come also.

 

Good luck to all those students for the new school year!


Good Bye , Summer!

Here in upstate NY we sort of go by those age old adages that summer starts Memorial Day weekend and ends Labor Day weekend.  Kids here do not even start school until the Wednesday after Labor Day. Best we not discuss when they get out of school as I am sure that would astonish some of you out there.

 

Today I am sitting here with tomorrow being the first day of September.  Labor Day is this weekend.  I am thinking that I do not know where the summer has gone.  Thankfully, I am not ending the summer the same way I started it.  We had a horrible storm the end of May and I spent Memorial Day weekend without power.  I am very reminiscent of that and also very grateful that I am not one of the thousands in NYS that are still without power from Irene.

 

I spent a good hour yesterday chatting with the new superintendent of my school district.  He and I had known each other in a parent-principal relationship in his former position as the principal of the high school.  Now, we have a new relationship as I am a school board member and he has been hired as the superintendent.  Today, I saw that September is National Hunger Action Month so I was very happy that our conversation dealt with the overwhelming need to get more families to fill out forms for reduced or free meals in the school district.  As I opened the page for www.hungeractionmonth.org, I was told that 13.5% of the people that live in the same upstate county as I do are food insecure.

 

My discussion with the superintendent centered around how the district in which I live and he works has always, until very recently, been very homogeneous.  This is changing drastically and quickly.  Building administrators talk about transient populations.  Students come to school without the ability to learn because they are hungry.  There are many support systems available.  The major problem is that the waiting lists to access some of the help are enormous.

 

Need causes creativity to create a program to meet the needs of those who have this challenge.  The first creative answer was begun by one of our high school teachers who started a weekend program to support those in our community that need help.  The Food Bank of the Southern Tier has a backpack program where students get food for the weekend but there is a waiting list to get into this program.  Enter the Participation in Government class and what has, over the course of a year, fed between 50 and 70 families and become an incorporated 501(c)3 not for profit organization – the M-EALS program which stands for Maine-Endwell (school district) Assisting Local Spartans (mascot).

 

Another method to help those who may have need is to be sure that families apply for free or reduce priced meals through the food service department at the school district. This involves government paperwork which a lot of people prefer to not fill out.  What it does not involve, any longer, is a huge stigma attached to the student.  Because the school district uses a pin-based system for meal payments, the free or reduced pricing is just figured into the system.  A student enters a pin and no one, including the child behind him or her, knows what that student is paying for lunch.

 

The biggest issue, in my mind, is communicating to parents to fill out this paperwork.  If a student comes into a district and had either free or reduced meals in a previous district, the family has to fill out the paperwork again.  While this is tedious and time-consuming, it is in the best interest of the student that it be done.  Studies have long shown that being hungry affects a student’s ability to learn.  As a school board member, if I filter what we as a district are doing as what is in the best interest of the student, we then MUST find a way to be sure all who qualify take advantage of the free or reduced priced meals as this is what is best for the student.

 

Please look for a second part to this, “The Harvest is Plentiful,” which will highlight an elementary school’s way to address hunger in our community.

 

 


College Visit

My youngest is about to start his senior year in high school.  He has known for some time where he really wants to go to college, but, as with the other kids, I am making him look at multiple colleges.  There is no guarantee that his first choice will want him.

 

He has been on the campus of one of the state schoools that offers the culinary program he is looking into.  He was at SUNY-Delhi for a competition in February and went on a visit with his girlfriend and her family the beginning of the month.  So this past Wednesday, he, his older sister and I headed to the Hudson Valley to look at the school as far as he is concerned.

 

We went to visit the Culinary Institute of America.  There was an admissions presentation, a demo with tasting and then a tour of campus.  We spoke with an admission counselor and saw someone that he had met before at College Day here locally.  All in all, the campus is absolutely beautiful.  The coursework is just what he wants.  The fit is, in my mind, perfect.

 

Here is a slide show of campus and what we saw.

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The Last Harry Potter

I did it.  I went to see “Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Part 2″ at midnight.  I have to tell you I am not going to talk about the actual movie but about the movie watching experience.  I know that, while the theatre I was in was sold out, not everyone is as crazy as my daughter and I – and the rest of the theatre full of people – are to go see a movie at that hour.

 

First, I will say that movie seats are not as comfortable as I remember them being.  This could be due to the fact that we went to see a double feature – Part 1 at 9 pm and Part 2 at 12:01 am.  There was approximately 50 minutes between the two movies for additional refreshments and bathroom visits or just standing, as opposed to sitting.

 

I know that the area I live in, upstate NY, has been rather warm lately.  Yesterday was not a hot and humid day.  I ran mid-afternoon and was not overheated during running.  Still, the weather forecast called for cool – in the mid 50′s – temperatures overnight.  I thought I had dressed accordingly.  I had on a skort and a tee shirt.  I froze.  The temperatures in the theatre were unbearable.  The air conditioning was running so high, it took quite some time under the covers when I got home for my toes to warm up.

 

Thankfully, there was more than the estimated 35 minutes between the two features.  The line at the bathroom was amazing.  My daughter left immediately upon the end of the first part.  She didn’t have any wait.  I went when she came back.  The line was quite a ways into the lobby area.  In the theatre’s defense, there are plenty of stalls and the line moved quickly.

 

We got our tickets to the double feature on Monday or Tuesday of this week.  Yes, as I mentioned, it was sold out.  Just how early, how far in advance, do you have to get to a movie that you have a ticket for?  When does a theatre allow patrons in?  My daughter and I got to the theatre about 8:30, so 30 minutes prior to the start, and the only seats together we could find were 5 rows from the front.  At least, the seats were on the end.

 

Now, 3D.  Back in the day – yes, I am old enough that I can use those words – I never went to the rudimentary 3D movies that came out.  I could not see in 3D and those silly cardboard glasses with one red and one green or blue lens annoyed me.  We got 3D glasses that were plastic – in the classic Harry Potter shape.  I actually had to wear them.  The experience without them would have just been horrible.  They did work somewhat but.  I was nauseous most of the movie.  My daughter felt nauseous and dizzy until well after we returned home.  I would really rather not see 3D movies.

 

Anyway, I guess I need to realize that the sleep I lose is not worth most movies.  That said, go see the movie.  It is amazing.

 


Youth Sports & My Friend Jenn

Jenn is an ambassador for MVP Health Care’s Generation Go.  This program, as I understand it, is giving her prompts for blog posts and giveaways.  Well, her post this week was regarding youth sports and tips for getting your kids involved in them.  While I left Jenn a comment and suggest you go check out her post and leave her one also, I am going to delve into this pool but into it at the deep end – not town teams but travel teams and teenagers.

 

Let me preface all of this by saying I am not being compensated at all for this post.  My experiences are my own, experienced through years of Little League, Pee Wee football and travel soccer and AAU basketball.  The last two of these involved a lot of travel and the soccer was as competitive as a league that involved teams along the Eastern seaboard.

 

Travel teams for older kids, and even leagues like Little League and Pee Wee football, are not the same as town or rec leagues.  There is  not an “everyone plays” attitude and  there are cuts.  Not everyone makes the team.  Of those who make the team, not all are guaranteed playing time.  This is a huge difference from recreational programs and from most town programs that I know.  Travel teams are in it to win and want to be an “all-star” team almost – the best of all the local area kids who play a particular sport.

 

Generally, interest in travel teams – or in a more competitive nature – comes with adult sports – the Women’s Word Cup, which is currently being played, Olympics, et cetera – being televised. Suddenly everyone wants to be a swimmer – after Michael Phelps won gold medals and Dara Torres won races – or a soccer player.  Unfortunately, not everyone is cut out for this type of play.  Competitive clubs are not around to teach skills.  The coaches run drills, not teach how to dive or dribble.

 

First, prepare your child.  If your player is not use to cuts or not playing, have a frank discussion about this possibility.  There is nothing worse to a teenager than to have Mom or Dad complaining about his or her playing time or why “their little darling” didn’t make the team.  While having you talk to them about this topic may make you and your teen uncomfortable, it beats  the alternative.

 

Second, make sure the fit is right.  Talk to other parents about the sports expertise that is needed for a specific team.

 

Third, get the right equipment.  Even in a sport as easy to equip someone for as basketball, the coach will want a certain sized ball.  If we are talking about soccer, there are a few considerations.  Are you going to require your teenager to wear a mouthguard while playing?  What about head protection?  Concussions are real possibilities in soccer and there is a headband that can be worn to help prevent such.

 

Fourth, ask questions about the coach.  What kind of training does the coach have?  On top of sport specific training, what about first aid, CPR, concussions (now called traumatic brain injury) training?  Another consideration is will an AED be available.  If so, is the coach trained to use it?  As many will tell you, an AED (automatic electronic defibrillator) does not require training but training is what makes someone think to use one.

 

I could go on and on.  Be sure you like hotels or campgrounds – whatever your preference is.  One fall we put over 13,000 miles on the car and I didn’t go to every game.  One season we drove far to almost every game because we were the “new kids” in the league.  Anyway you look at it, enjoy and try to teach your teen that when all is said and done, it is just a game.


Where I Am From

I have spent parts of my morning – those not spent chatting with my mother or watching the Tour de France or working – reading different entries of this meme.  I want to thank Maria at BoredMommy.com for posting it as that is where I read it first.

I am from Airstreams and Coachmen campers, from Barbies and Kens and Mimi-knitted clothes for Barbie and her friends.

I am from an upstairs apartment and then an old den downstairs that became mine as a room.  While no door on the den and dark paneling, I made it me by painting all the trim – including the built-in bookcase – orange (not peach or yellow but true bright orange).

I am from peonies in the front yard in June with huge ants crawling on them, the trees in the forest whose names I learned in Latin.

I am from seeing whose candle can make it further down the street after Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve and watching hose races with my father or my stepmom, from Kate and June and Eleanor – though my name is much more modern than those.

I am from the small town and little city.

From Christmas being a year-round spirit and church and confirmation being important.

I am from Catholicism eventually. From the family that was involved in the church.  From Episcopal-ism that led me to rebel as its founders did against Rome.  From nature being around me with God always surrounding me.

I’m from Endicott and England, Ireland and Scotland – a mutt by true definition, liver and onions and Cornell chicken.

From the fudge I made that would not set but the family sat around and ate with spoons, the blending of families and traditions so all are happy on holidays, and the cooking for hours to eat for days.

I am from shoeboxes and envelopes, computer files and frames.  Images from my past and my present that will always be part of me.

If you are interested in seeing more of these posts about where people are from, check out Maria’s above or Stephanie’s or LouLou’s.  You can also see the template for this meme at http://www.swva.net/fred1st/wif.htm


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