Monthly Archives: May 2011

Minutes to Live

I am participating in #Trust30 which is an online initiative and 30-day writing challenge that encourages you to look within and trust yourself.  Today’s prompt, on top of being a quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson, is imagining you have 15 minutes to live.

15 minutes?  This type of timeline makes me think of Joplin right now.  Yes, there were warnings of the impending tornado touchdown.  Does that mean the warning is enough?  We are all dying a bit each day.  A sad statement but entirely true.  I think I would prefer to not know when death is coming, just that it is.  To know that it is happening is not something I can pull into the way I live.  I like to see the half-full glass, not the cannot fill up glass.

After I got over the initial shock of writing about death – my own as I know I have written about others who have died, I realized that my attitude that I live by would carry through to dealing with my own death.  I would not worry about what was going to happen in 15 minutes.  I would worry about what would happen after that time.

My thoughts went to my children.  Granted all of them are in their 20′s now but one, yet I still wanted to tell them all the things I would as they grow older and have the major changes that happen in life.

  • Move a lot when you are younger and do not have family or other ties to bind  you to an area.  See what is out there.
  • Enjoy people.  We are all humans and to sustain our life we need human INTERaction.  We NEED more people in our lives – real, live people.
  • Enjoy what you do.  If you are working doing something that you do not enjoy, this job is going to become an issue in your life.  Find what you love and do it!
  • Document your life as much as you can.  You all know I do it.  I have tons of words and photos that have been a part of my life and will continue to but you need to document your lives.
  • Take the faith that you were taught as you were growing up and make it yours.  I did as a 20-something.  You need to.  Faith will sustain you through the bumps in life.  I am not saying you need a faith that is like mine.  You need your own faith so take what you have learned as a foundation and find your faith.
We are afraid of truth, afraid of fortune, afraid of death, and afraid of each other. Our age yields no great and perfect persons.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

In Quiet Respect, With Quiet Thanks

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How do we measure childhood obesity?

As I said yesterday, childhood obesity is an issue in the United States.  Children from toddlers to teens spend too much time being sedentary.  To me, as a parent, the big question is how do we measure who is and isn’t obese or even overweight as that may lead to obesity.  I have some large concerns that we just lump everyone into tool, such as a BMI calculator, without some guidance from professionals.

I went looking back into my archives as I was sure I wrote about my daughter’s experience with physical education class and the pinch test with calipers.  At the time, I think my 5’2″ daughter might have weight 115 and was in high school.  She may have weighed less than that as I do not recall and could not find a previous writing about this incident.  The issue was that the PE class would use calipers – not sure anyone uses these any longer – to tell a student if he/she was overweight or not.  My daughter, in consecutive years, would have this rudimentary test show that she weighed too much.  As a parent, I would complain that this type of testing was setting up teens for eating disorders as there was no way that my daughter – who will claim she is 5’3″ because she is more then 5’2″ and a half – was not fat.  She may not have been as toned as she should have been but I would never agree she was fat.

Along comes the push by many people to start using BMI (body mass index) as an indicator that a person is overweight or obese.  Let me start by saying I do not believe using any single item to indicate such a critical health issue is intelligent.  So many variables can make such an instrument valid or void.

Take person one who is me, a mother of six who started a journey to a healthier lifestyle over three and a half years ago.  At that point in time, I weighed the most I had ever carried on my 5’4″ frame.  I also had a BMI of 33.  You can read more about my journey, which is still in progress, at Healthy Lifestyle Journey – Part I and Healthy Lifestyle Journey – Part II (I think a part 3 is in the works as an update).  To this day, I have lost 65 pounds and dropped my BMI to 27.5.  I am still considered overweight.  I probably am still overweight.  The problem is that I do not feel overweight.  I am not sedentary.  I am, in many people’s minds, extremely active to possibly obsessive about my exercise.  I am a marathoner.  I run road races regularly.  I am not, at least not in writing, an overweight person.

Let’s look at a teenager.  He is 16 for another two plus months.  He is 5’11″ and weighs 178.  He is active, moreso during the summer months but active none the less.  He bikes approximately 1000 miles a year.  He occasionally plays tennis.  He occasionally, less than the tennis, rides horses.  He mows neighbor’s lawns in the summer as a part-time job.  His BMI is 24.  He is considered overweight.  He is rather picky about what he eats and does enjoy a soda when it is offered.  He likes vegetables and cookies.  He is a culinary arts student at the local BOCES.  Do I think, if I were to look at this teen, that he is overweight?  No, not really.  As a mother, I would probably wonder if the child eats enough.  Also, as a mother, I would probably figure this teenage boy never stops eating.

Another example is a 20 year old college student.  He has been a student athlete with practices six days a week on top of weight training and other activities.  When not in season, he also workout by both running and doing a series of weight training exercises.  He is 5’8″ and weight 199.  He admits he would like to drop a few pounds.  His BMI is 30.3 and puts him in the obese category.  He is not by any means obese.  He has a lot of muscle on his body.  Are there areas in his health he could improve?  Undoubtedly.  Is weight one of them?  Possibly.  Is weight the only one?  Definitely not.

Weight, while a singular measure, is not an independent point in any person’s health.  Weight is co-dependent with nutrition, activity, allergies.  You get the picture.  While I understand the need to have a tool to measure obesity, I am not sure that one tool – stand alone – is the answer.  Too many items go into being healthy that one stand alone tool – such as BMI – cannot measure a person’s health in regards to obesity.

How do you feel about BMI?  Do you think schools should measure, in some manner or another, whether students are overweight or not?  If so, what do schools do with this information?  Should information that cannot be acted on by the school really be measured?  Is one stand alone tool for measuring obesity the answer to the childhood obesity crisis in the United States?


How much is too much?

Childhood obesity is an issue in the United States.  Children from toddlers to teens spend too much time being sedentary.  I don’t recall every coming home from high school with six hours of homework and only, when deducting time for family dinner, five hours until a reasonable bedtime.  I remember as a grade school student coming home from school – I walked to and from grade school which was close to 3/4 of a mile – and hitting a tennis ball against a wall down the street if there was no one in the neighborhood who could come outside and play.  The point is I was outside doing something after school as a child.

The scenario now is different.  As a mother of six children, I have watched as my children loved to go outside and play after school to the current scenario.  My teenage son does tend to get outside more than some of his friends as he is not currently taking any Advanced Placement (AP) courses.  Yet, the outlook is less outdoor time.  Most high school kids are outside for organized school or community sports only.  They leave this activity to go home and do several hours of homework or to shower and head to another activity.  There is little attention paid to what the family is eating or how much the family is eating as the children are shuttled from one activity to another.

This changing social dynamic lends itself for parents to blame everything but themselves for health issues that children develop.  I hear frequently that families have no time to sit down together to eat – a huge way to watch and be sure a child is getting proper nutrition – because of all the activities children are in.  The problem with this is that I also hear kids complaining about all that activity.  Maybe it is too much for one teen to go from after school club to school sports practice or competition to private lessons – you can fill in what the lessons are for: voice, dance, acting – to home at 10 pm to do homework.    Add in a part-time job for some teens and this schedule becomes even fuller.

The question now becomes what is more important – school work and getting into a good college (all that homework and those AP classes), being well-rounded (the after-school sports and other activities), a part-time job (learning fiscal responsibility and possibly helping pay for college), family interaction (family meals and time together other than commuting from one thing to another.  Am I saying that a child or teen cannot have all or most of these things?  Not totally.  I am saying as adults, parents need to prioritize what should have the emphasis.

Parents need to know that a drive-thru at a fast food location is not the way a child or teen should eat every night.  An occasional trip to a fast food restaurant is okay but children and teens should be taught how to pick out what is more nutritious from the menu.  There are healthier items on fast food menus.  Not every option is fried or coated with bacon and cheese.  Most fast food locations offer milk, 100% juice or a lemonade drink as options to soda.  Some parental direction – guidance – in the ordering process will allow an occasional trip to a drive-thru to not cause huge nutritional issues.

Parents need to know that children need sleep.  I cannot tell you the number of afternoons my teenager has come home and sat down and fallen asleep as he was up late for one reason or another.  The wake-up time he has is not self-determined as he has a bus to catch to get the approximate 3.5 miles to school.  Unfortunately, in his case, this creates a domino effect.  He naps after school.  Then, he doesn’t start homework until later, causing a later bedtime.  The next day, after a full day of school and after school activities, he comes home and naps, setting the process in action again.  Can I change this process?  As a parent, I can try.  When I am able and feel that he can survive without the rest after school, I will encourage the homework be done immediately.  This action, in turn, will allow an earlier bedtime and hopefully will eliminate the need for a nap the next day.

Parents can also control activities.  I have many times told a child, usually a teen, that a choice has to be made.  One person cannot do everything that has been set up for the teen.  Of course, in a family with six kids, it is easier to say “I can’t get you there” than it is in a family with one child.  The easiest thing I have found, once a child is of the age to express likes and dislikes – beyond the screaming of NO that is a toddler staple, is to tell a child or teen that the choice is his or hers within parameters.  Set the parameters for family priorities, such as no activities on Sunday so the family can go to church.  Lay out what these priorities mean – what time during the week and weekend is available and is not available.  Allow the child or teen to select activities.  Then, exercise parental discretion.  In other words, as much as we like to think that our children would pick the best activities, we as parents, as the adults, hold veto power.

This entry started out to be my thoughts about BMI and other measuring tools for determining how obese our children are.  The writing sort of took a different slant.  I do think that the question how much is too much is a key part in the puzzle that needs to be pieced together to help solve the crisis of childhood obesity.  What do you think is too much?  


Southern Tier Tweet Up

In keeping with Twitter and its 140 character limit, this post will be short on words.  Suffice it to say, I went to my initial Binghamton Tweet Up last night.  I got to meet people who live here locally and that utilize Twitter.  There will be a second post coming on our hosting facility, Roberson Museum, next week.  Photo slideshow below.

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Re-learning a Lesson

Late last summer I thought I had learned a lesson.  I had decided – granted it took me a few weeks once the suggestion was floated – to run a marathon.  I was going to, along with several friends – all of whom run different paces, run Wineglass Marathon.  I had some issues with cash flow as number five was heading back to college so I held off on registering.  I did this knowing that the year prior a friend had registered for this same marathon in September.  The price did not rise until mid-September so I thought I was safe to hold off.

Mid-August came and I was running a half that is local to Wineglass.  The talk was all about how the marathon had already closed registration.  Guess what?  I had not registered.  Could not believe that they had closed 6 weeks earlier than the year before.  I guess I should have realized that was possible because a year prior, I would never have thought I would be entertaining running in a marathon.

Fast forward to this year.  I ran my first marathon.  It was not Wineglass.  It was not local.  It was in Myrtle Beach in February.  I registered in October for it.  The local area here is hosting the inaugural Greater Binghamton Bridge Run – a half marathon that will cross four historic bridges in Binghamton.  I had every intention of running this half marathon.  I love the half distance.  Unfortunately, I have had slight issue with my right hamstring.  I held off on registering because of this issue.  Today I went to register – yes, only 10 days out – to find that Tuesday the Chamber of Commerce announced that the registration had capped at 1000 and the half marathon was closed to registration.

I guess some lessons are harder to learn than others.


School Vacation

Back in the second week of April, my youngest – the only one still in school – had his spring break.  This break was at an odd time – not the week before or the week after Easter but two weeks prior.  The timing was inconsequential as we were not traveling but the youngest was.  He left on Wednesday of that week to head to Syracuse for three days, returning home on Friday, to compete in the NYS SkillsUSA competition.  Below is a slideshow from the competition.  I have photos mostly of the culinary arts and baking competitions but there were 69 different skills displayed within the competition.  The BOCES that he attends had three students take first place in their respective areas and will be heading to Nationals in June.

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Measurements

I know I have asked this question before and few things have changed since those posts.  How do you measure success in weight loss?  Most people will respond with a number on a scale – how much someone weighs.  I have to be totally honest. I do not own scales.  I have never owned scales – probably was a really good thing when I was pregnant with the twins as I went into labor at 212 pounds.  I do now have access to scales at kick boxing once a week.  I do tend to weigh myself every now and then but the number is not what I am looking for.

I say a number is not what I am looking for but that is probably not 100% honest.  I dropped a good deal of weight as I was training for my first marathon – one that I did not run.  I was really excited when I got weighed at the walk-in and thought the scales at kick boxing were off by six pounds.  This weight was within eight pounds of my goal weight – I know you are wondering how someone without scales can have a goal weight.  Me, too.  I still, six months later, not lost those eight pounds – despite training and running a marathon in February.

I measure success in weight loss by tone.  How do my clothing fit me?  Another thing that helps me gauge how I am going is my wrist size.  I put my Garmin Forerunner on this morning and moved it one notch smaller than I have ever put it since I got it as a birthday gift last September.

I am feeling better than I ever did when I was heavier. I am not at my goal weight, which – to be perfectly honest – is probably still a few pounds heavier than any chart says I should be.  I am happy with me!


Water, Water … Everywhere!

My area saw over nine inches of rain in April.  I believe the average April rainfall is between three and three and a half inches.  Rainfall for 2011 is almost three times average and a good deal of that fell last week.  To help those of you understand what it looks like when that much rain falls in an area that has several major rivers and those rivers’ tributaries, I am posting a slideshow of shots from various locations last week.  These were all taken in Broome County, NY on Thursday, April 28th.

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Concussions

Sitting on a school board in New York State, I know that concussions in youth sports are a hot topic at present.  Legislation has been introduced into the legislature that will detail how a student will rehabilitate from a concussion, including believing a concussion to be present whether diagnosed or not.  This legislation, which could take effect as early as July 1 of this year, would apply to all New York State public school students, regardless of how the concussion was incurred – sports, PE class, just goofing around.

Concussions are very difficult to diagnose.  It is equally hard for those so diagnosed to realize that there is a need for little or no activity to heal the brain.  Strangely, parents first think of sports such as football when thinking of concussions.  While a possibility in football, I believe that some other sports may be more likely to be the cause – soccer and basketball come to mind.

While playing both competitive travel soccer and high school varsity soccer, my daughter suffered several concussions.  These brain injuries ranged from minor to rather major.  The cause was different each time: a ball to the head not properly taken, a header where contact made with another head.  The biggest common part was that my daughter wanted to continue to play even though the head ache was almost debilitating.

Diagnosis is difficult, also.  My daughter has had CT scans.  Luckily, the doctor could convince our insurance company that these were necessary.  This is not always the case.  Concussions are becoming such an issue for children and teenagers that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has started a Heads Up campaign.

Parents need to recognize what a concussion is and what the warning signs of such are.  Many coaches feel kids should just play through such issues so learn to be an advocate for your child, your athlete.  Be sure to get your child to a doctor to be diagnosed and follow medical treatment to the letter.  It is also important to be sure that your teenager does not self-medicate for a concussion.  Many will not want to miss practice or games and so will keep you in the dark.  Learn what the symptoms are for a concussion so that you can take the best care of your child, teenager.

The CDC has several different toolkits on concussions for different interest groups: parents, schools, school athletics, youth athletics.  Check out the toolkits and be sure to let your school or coach know that these are available.  Toughing out a brain injury – which is what a concussion is – is not an option! Educate yourself, your coach, your school and your child/teen.

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