Comments on: Musings From a Former Bar Skank – by Anonymous

By: Tess Schapp

Tess Schapp — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 11:56:32 +0000

Thank you very much for providing this post.

By: TheKitchenWitch

TheKitchenWitch — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:31:16 +0000

Ah yes, the bar skank. The girl who never learns that an open vagina does NOT equal an open door…

Great post!

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:22:19 +0000

The important thing is that you have learned. You have moved on. You have achieved what I hope is a peace with your life now. The truth is hard. Bottom line. But facing it is one way to let it go. Or embrace it. Whatever makes most sense to you.
Thank you for this entry to our challenge!

By: Nicki

Nicki — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:48:47 +0000

I have made some of my mistakes since having children – not the children but some of the ways I behaved when my marriage fell apart. I don’t feel shame for those but am glad I learned from them.

By: Deena Kay

Deena Kay — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 02:51:35 +0000

I read your number 2 in the e-mail questionaire. You dont need a man to go on a honeymoon. I got married by myself at the beach. Full wedding gown and the works. I loved it, it was liberating and I did it all by myself! I had my most important moment, felt beautiful and all that, all by myself. It was a hoot!

Screw it, of you want to go snorkling in the South Pacific, you dont need a man to take you. You just need a desire to go!

By: Deena Kay

Deena Kay — Sun, 13 Dec 2009 02:42:59 +0000

Few and far between are any reasons for shame. We’re all human, we all fall short of perfection because everyone’s definition of perfection is different. We’re perfect in the eyes of some and imperfect in the eyes of many. As long one of the sets of eyes who feels your perfect is YOUR OWN, you’re OK!

Live according to your own rules and not anyone elses. They aren’t living your life, you are and you’re the one who matters and whose opinion of yourself matters most

I do care what others’ think but I don’t make any decisions based on it. Good for you for leaving the baggage with no claim ticket. You shouldn’t claim that! No reason to……

By: TheWildMind

TheWildMind — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 19:18:54 +0000

Sadly, most of my regrets (and, yes, shame) occurred after I had the children. The children, however, were never regretted nor am I ashamed of them and none of them are the result, cause or source of any said shame or regret, just to clarify. In fact, were it not for them, I may have caved under the heavy load of shame and regret I carried for so many years.

I’ve since left the shame baggage at the ticket counter with no claim ticket. The regret bag is growing smaller as I continue to reflect and learn and grow from my mistakes and poor choices.

If nothing else, in some areas, I provide a crystal clear example of what NOT to do with a life. That’s not always a bad thing, at least, I hope not!

By: Deena Kay

Deena Kay — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 17:40:00 +0000

Natalie, I continue finding myself replying to your comments You get me thinking about things. You’re a good writer and responder and I like all the ones I’ve read. Senior citizen center hussy! I love that comment!

The only thing I think about homewreckers is that it takes 2 to tango and no homewrecker can wreck a home without a participating husband. In a way, I would think that perhaps it’s a good thing that he got caught since he’s clearly the cheating kind. If he hadn’t of cheated with those hussies, he’d have cheated with some other one. Strong and loyal is the man who won’t cheat and if they aren’t, they should refrain from marrying if they can’t keep their commitment and their johnson in their pocket.

By: Natalie

Natalie — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 16:40:27 +0000

Nicki, thank you for hosting this post!

To the writer….

Thank you for writing this.

I think that for every woman like you and I who grow up and pray that our daughters don’t make quite so many of the same mistakes we did, there is another one who never quite grows out of the skank stage, becomes a barfly, then a cougar, and then the senior citizen center hussy.

And that’s ok – good for them – but when they start messing with married men I quickly go from respecting their sexual expression to deriding them for their part in wrecking a home.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 15:37:26 +0000

BLW is totally right. I have had these periods in my life where I was definitely learning a lesson that I regret having to learn.

Whoever wrote this is very brave indeed.