I am not as concerned, although the question do we want to have it all is slightly associated with this question, with the have it all question today. I know that the have it all question has plagued discussions between all kinds of people. My question is do we – as in women and mothers specifically – try to do it all.
You are probably thinking I may already know the answer to this question. I certainly try to do it all. Let’s take yesterday as an example. I am a West Virginia University alumni. While I do not get to see the Mountaineers play frequently, I try to watch when they are on in my area. So yesterday, the day after Thanksgiving, consisted of the following “want to dos.”
- Breakfast with my sister before she left to go back to New Jersey
- Laundry as the college kid was going to need to take all that clothing back to school with him
- My friend Gary’s open studio (Gary Rith’s Pottery)
- A side trip to Ithaca to walk The Commons
- Home to make dinner
- The WVU-Pitt football game, more commonly known as The Backyard Brawl
- A gig at a local bar that my friend’s son and husband were playing
Needless to say, I got a bit tired watching the football game. Granted, I made the mistake of watching the game in my bedroom. I fell asleep and missed a very exciting ending to the game and slept through the gig.
So this morning, a friend said to me that I try to do it all and then crash in the middle of my plans. I do listen to my body. If I am tired, I will crash without a doubt. I have done it many times, including last night.
So, the question is, do we try to do it all?
November 28th, 2009 at 4:16 pm
Yes, we have moments of trying to do it all. I have days where I am relentless on getting through my to-do-list. I have other days where I sit down and do absolutely nothing. Those days I usually hold my babies and feel content. I think both days are important to experience, yet should not occur too often. Moderation is important, right?
November 28th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Ambrosia – you are so right. We need both those types of days. I cannot wait to have the “hang with the kids” days when I get them. Moderation is the key. I like that so much more than the word “balance.”
November 28th, 2009 at 6:59 pm
Yes. Which is why we fail. Repeatedly. Not that I’ve ever been there, or anything…
November 30th, 2009 at 7:20 am
Why is it that we do it over and over and expect a different result? Was it Twain who said that was the definition of a fool? Because that is me – a fool.
November 28th, 2009 at 8:57 pm
Yes. I try, at least, and I fail over and over again. when do you think I’ll figure it out and stop trying?
xo
November 30th, 2009 at 7:20 am
If I am any example, figuring it out doesn’t come too soon.
November 29th, 2009 at 10:16 pm
Yes. And if I hadn’t tried to do it all all day today, I’d have much more energy to write something useful here.
November 30th, 2009 at 7:21 am
At least you were still up at 10:16, Jen. I crawled into bed with a book at 8 and had the lights off at 9.