Monthly Archives: October 2008

October Means Family Weekends

No, not the kind where the whole family comes into town.  October means family weekends at the various colleges my older children attend.  That also means – ROAD TRIP!

This weekend is family weekend at the University at Buffalo.  My 21 year old son is a student at UB.  He is also president of True Blue – a fan club.  Family weekend at UB means football.  As much as I love college football, I am home this weekend as my youngest is on a scout campout and I don’t like being out of reach when he is on these. 

To substitute, my oldest took the almost 18 year old to UB for the weekend - sort of.  The 18 year old left home about 1 pm – he has a senior schedule that colleges are not going to like.  He went to Syracuse to rendevous with the oldest.  They went from Syracuse to Niagara University for the home opener for the men’s hockey team.  The 21 year old at UB has a twin sister at Niagara.  Then, back to the Amherst campus for the night and tailgating today.  The football game promises to be fantastic – UB vs. Army.

As all good parents do, I sent a bundle of food.  I spent two days in the kitchen.  There is apple cake (made two so the oldest could keep one in Syracuse),

chili (either for a meal or for tailgating), Chili

pumpkin chocolate chip cookies (because everyone loves them) Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookies

and then fresh picked apples, some pretzels in Halloween bags and some chips that are the same.  There is also the box of requested items – a huge bottle of Frank’s Red Hot sauce, five cans of chicken breast meat, two huge bags of tortilla chips, some hamburger helper, some soup.

I start the baking and cooking all over again next Wednesday as next weekend is family weekend at Niagara University and I will take stuff with me there also.

   

Put Yourself First

I tend to not think of myself as selfish.  I am sure, when the boys ask for something and are told I am busy or some other response, they think so.  I am not.  I just finished reading an article by Rebecca Pratt about putting yourself first.

Pratt hits the nail on the head as she explains the day for most parents, though women do seem to still shoulder the bulk of household responsibilities.  If you are like me, you get up and it starts.  You help kids get ready for school, maybe make lunches, clean up from breakfast, go to work, come home and do some housework, fix dinner, help with homework, do laundry, do dishes, drop into bed exhausted knowing this is coming again tomorrow.  The only problem is tomorrow is not far away.

Guess what?  Pratt makes a great point.  Have you ever truly listened to the “talk” by flight attendants prior to take off?  They tell you to put your oxygen mask on first prior to helping any children you may be traveling with.  Do you know why?  Because you have to be fully aware of what is going on to be able to help those around you.

This analogy applies to life in general.  If you do not restore your own mind and body, you are not functioning fully and may not be able to help those you love.

If you have been following my blog at all, you will know that I started a journey in September of 2007.  This journey was to incorporate daily exercise into my life and eat more healthy.  This is a journey, as was getting out of shape and letting myself go.

To keep myself in shape – and I am talking mental, spiritual and physical – I have to put myself before my children some times.  I run between 2.5 and 5 miles most days.  One day of the week I do a longer trek – somewhere between 7.5 and 10 miles (this is not a straight run but a combination of running and power walking).  I attend Mass regularly as I need to be spiritually aware also.  I do read my Bible and pray constantly.  I also read all the time – newspapers, magazines, books on all topics.

What do you do to put yourself first?


The Final Presidential Debate of 2008

Three cheers for Bob Schieffer!  He has moderated this last presidential debate in a manner that actually got some answers out of the candidates.  He did so in a manner that did not make him the news story the next day.  Next to Joe the Plumber, Schieffer should be the one who did the best job last night, especially since Joe wasn’t actually at Hofstra.

First off, I was skeptical of the debate last night.  I had been bored to tears by the debate at Belmont University on the seventh.  I even wrote I may not watch another debate as all they had been, up until last night, sound bites of campaign talking points and no actual information.  It is just a shame that both campaigns couldn’t get the detailed information out sooner than three weeks prior to the end of the campaign.

This particular night, Schieffer managed to hold the candidates to task.  He forced answers out of the candidates and managed to get the candidates to interact immediately – something Jim Lehrer couldn’t get the men to do in the first debate.

A few items that stand out to me are Obama repeatedly said we are in the worst financial crises since the Great Depression.  This statement surprises me as economists are saying recession and only quietly.  I don’t know that I agree with this statement.  I am the same age as Obama so have lived through the same times and don’t think that his statement is correct.

McCain called Obama to task for wanting to “spread the wealth around.”  I have to agree that I was shocked that these exact words came out of Obama’s mouth in Ohio earlier this week.  This is not true Marxism but is a Socialist principle.  As my 17, yes soon-to-be 18 and voting in this election as his first ever vote,  year old son swears, “the last person I heard say that was Karl Marx.” 

Schieffer tried, as did Jim Lehrer in the first debate and Gwen Ifill in the vice presidential debate and Tom Brokaw in the second debate, to get both candidate to answer a question about which of his new plans would have to be foresaken or slowed because of the current economic situation.  Obama flat out didn’t answer.  That type of arrogance annoys me.  McCain didn’t truly answer but did discuss an across the board spending freeze.  This, at least, address the question somewhat, though only slightly more than Obama’s no answer.

It was during the candidates’ exchanges with each other concerning this spending freeze that the line of the night came from John McCain.  McCain told Obama that he was not George Bush and if he wanted to run against Bush, he should have ran four years ago.  That sound bite has been all over today.

McCain, and unwisely in my mind as I do not know if it can actually be done, said he can still balance the budget in his first term.  Obama danced around that question and, then, did not answer McCain’s question about standing up to his own party.  In Obama’s defense, he did cite examples of legislation he worked on that made him “unpopular” with Democrats but none that actually were standing up to his party.

When Schieffer asked about taking the high road in campaigning, McCain brought up associations.  Obama brought up what supporters are saying at McCain campaign appearances.  In my mind, McCain won here.  You may ask why.  My awarding a win in this area to McCain is based on many factors.  First, McCain has corrected people at his rallies.   Second, Obama outlined times he had contact with William Ayres.  He did leave out late 1990′s – I believe that time frame is correct – political gathering in Ayres’s Chicago home when Obama was introduced as the hand picked successor to Alice Palmer for the state senate’s 13th district.

I, again, have to say the winner in my mind was Bob Schieffer.  I was truly not looking forward to this debate.  Between previous debates being nothing but glorified stump speeches and pundits saying that the entire debate would be on the economy – there are actually more domestic issues, I was dreading the debate.  I didn’t hate it in the end.  I didn’t throw things at my television during it.  I actually learned a few things.


Congressman Jack Murtha (D-PA) Disses Constituents

Okay, normally the goings on in the Pennsylvania 12th Congressional District are of little concern to me.  I live in the New York 22nd Congressional District.  Unfortunately, I do know who the congressman for the PA 12th is as Jack Murtha is in the news a lot.  He has been in Washington for a while, having been sworn in for his first term in 1974 by Tip O’Neill.  He is currently Chairman of the House Appropriations Subcommittee on Defense.

All that having been said, Murtha is in, what I predict, is the fight of his life to keep his seat.  He will need every vote he can get.  Now, is it a rational act - I think the word erratic is overused – of someone who will need all the votes possible to make a statement that implies his constituents are racist.  The Pittsburgh Post-Gazette quoted Murtha as saying:

 ”There’s no question Western Pennsylvania is a racist area,” said Mr. Murtha, whose district stretches from Johnstown to Washington County. “The older population is more hesitant.”

You can read the entire article – “Murtha expects Obama to win PA” – here.

Today, Congressman Murtha was backpeddling as fast as he could.  He was apologizing to his constituency.  Of course, Murtha had no choice but to apologize.  His opponent in the race for the 12th district seat, Lt. Col. Bill Russell (ret.), insisted that Murtha apologized.

If you live in the PA – 12th, let me know how you feel.


Get Out The Vote!

We all know that candidates will spend a lot of money to get out the vote.  The question is what is going too far.  This particular issue is not about a campaign that has gone too far but a newspaper.

The Tennessee Tribune – middle Tennessee’s leading black newspaper – is printing the names and addresses of all those registered voters who did not vote in the 2004 presidential election.  To see the listing, you can go to the paper’s web site – http://www.thetennesseetribune.com/ - and scroll down to see the paper where the listing is.  I did not say just names.  They are printing the names and addresses.  They are quoting the Davidson County Election Office as the source of the information.

While I do believe that Freedom of Information requests are important, this action goes to the question of why are these people being singled out.  I realize that we should all vote but is it not possible that many of these people had a legitimate reason for not getting to the polls in 2004?  There are no excuses listed, just names and addresses.

Would I feel differently if the addresses were not printed?  Quite possibly.  I am just not sure that this listing helps the debate about the election at all.  I am also not sure that the listing is in the best interest of the public.


Voter Suppression by Government?

I know we think that title sound preposterous.  I would have thought so if I hadn’t just finished reading my local paper.  Please bear in mind I have two college-aged children expecting absentee ballots for the election and I live in the Town of Union.

I guess I need to be a bit more truthful.  The actual mailing of absentee ballots is being held up by court order.  I have seen the Supreme Court decide one election in my lifetime.  I don’t feel that a local judge should disallow 651 – probably not an important number for either candidate in a decidedly blue state like New York – voters who have followed all the rules to vote.  The original article can be found here.

The problem all circles around library taxes.  A few years back a new taxing entity was voted on to provide funding to two libraries in the Town of Union so that local municipalities in the town did not have to fund the library out of their operating budgets.  Now, the boards of directors of the two libraries and the Town board are fighting over a referendum on this November’s ballot.  A judge has ordered the absentee ballots for those 651 residents of the Town of Union to not be mailed. 

This action is absolutely ridiculous.  Mail the ballots.  Decide on the issue at question.  Then, order the board of elections to either count the votes on the library referendum or to disregard it, dependent on the court ruling.  DO NOT TAKE 651 PEOPLE’S VOTES AWAY FROM THEM!


What do you want?

I am going to try a new tactic.  I am looking to figure out what I want to hear from the two candidates in tomorrow night’s final presidential debate.  The topic is domestic policy but I have to tell you all right up front – I am sick of hearing about the economy.  I live in the economy.  I don’t fly all over on other people’s money – yes, campaign contributions pay for those planes and flights so it is someone else’s dime.  I don’t make the salary of a US Senator but hardly ever go to work. 

I want to hear about the candidates’ other domestic policies. 

I want to hear both candidates espouse their views on education – starting with the current No Child Left Behind.  I want to hear both opinions on what can be done to fix NCLB and what new items should be looked at for education in the US to prosper.  I have looked at both candidates’ websites and do not find any specifics listed in this area.  I want to know where the money for all these educational initiatives is going to come from in our new economy. 

I want to know why the Obama/Biden ticket has called for “a bold goal to increase students taking AP or college-level classes nationwide 50 percent by 2016.”  I find that this goal is not a necessity.  It is, in some cases, a waste of parental money when the student gets to college even.  I also don’t believe you can push students to leave their high school days behind by law.   

I want to know why the McCain/Palin ticket feels that parents should be able to choose where their children go to school.  What is wrong with being in school with those you live near?  Isn’t developing a sense of community as important as education?  And, when a particular “popular” school becomes overwhelmed with those who want “in,” is either McCain or Palin going to referee the fight by parents to be sure their child is on the list?  Do not laugh.  These things will happen in this particular type of a system.

I want to hear about Homeland Security.  I want to know what steps are going to be taken to make sure that our homeland isn’t attacked again.  As at least one candidate has said, “they” are watching us.  I blogged about the similarities of pre-2001 attacks on Americans abroad last month and then the biggest attack on our homeland since Pearl Harbor and current situations.  This is a huge issue for me as both an American and a parent.  I want to know that this country will be safe under either administration.  I realize that homeland security is a tricky business.  You cannot just put a whole plan on the internet for all to see.  I would, though, like to be assured that both candidates realize this is still a huge issue that is basically being ignored.

I want to hear about immigration.  One of my oldest daughter’s best friends at college has recently become a border patrol member.  I know that the training he has undergone is intensive – without details – and he has worked hard to work for his country.  I want to know where both candidates stand on immigration.  What are they going to do about our northern and southern borders?  What are they going to do about the 12 million illegal immigrants already in our country?  I know there is no perfect answer to these questions but I want to hear the candidates talking about them anyway and with specifics.

The debate is only an hour and a half but there are other issues I would love to cram into it.  I want to hear plans on energy with specific details.  I want to hear what each plans to do about poverty here – and, what we should have heard about in another debate, abroad.  I want to hear agriculture and the judicial appointments that will most surely come in the first term of this new administration.  I seriously want to hear about everything that has to do with our country but the economy.


Rescue for the Middle Class

Yes, that is what this is called – Barack Obama and Joe Biden’s Rescue Plan for the Middle Class.  I don’t know about you but I don’t necessarily want to be rescued at the expense of the freedoms I believe I enjoy as an American citizen.  I know the big speech was yesterday so I am a day behind.  The plan itself is seven pages long.  That means it takes a bit of time to read and digest.  If you want to read the entire plan, you can find it here.

This “rescue” plan is a four pronged rescue of the middle class.  The plan is ” a comprehensive four-part rescue plan for the middle class that builds on his existing proposals and adds new ways to directly address our economy’s rapidly evolving problems:  
1.  Immediate Action to Create Good Jobs in America 

2.  Immediate Relief for Struggling Families
 
3.  Direct, Immediate Assistance for Homeowners, Not A Bailout for Irresponsible Mortgage Lenders
 
4.  A Rapid, Aggressive Response to Our Financial Crisis, Using All the Tools We Have.”

While I appreciate that someone in the Obama-Biden inner circle took the time to make up this plan, I am skeptical on several fronts.  My first front of skepticism comes in that Obama is saying this must take place “NOW” - bolding is my emphasis but Obama’s emphasis was immediately.  The man has not been to the US Senate – other than to cast a yes vote for the recent “bailout” in months.  He goes back only when expected but has basically been drawing a US salary for the last two years plus without working.  This skepticism goes also to John McCain.  If you go back in time, you will see that I think that elected officials trying for a “higher” office should be forced to resign their current post to be able to run.  All candidates that are public servants were collecting money from you an me in salary while not doing their jobs.  

While I do think that some of Obama’s economic package geared at the middle class should become law, a lot of the points just reek of socialism and turn my stomach.  One part of the jobs portion of the plan includes partnering with US auto makers.  I don’t know about the rest of you but I am sick and tired of my government giving money to businesses that make bad decisions.  If US auto makers had taken some cues from the 1970′s energy crisis, the huge vehicle boom that occurred recently in the US would not have been and most of the US auto makers would have been working on affordable, alternative energy cars long before now.  Just because these business mavens went after profits at a time when they saw them and are now paying for a lack of foresight does not mean that we, the American people, should bail them out along with financial institutions.

I am a bit confused on the tax cuts for workers and families.  First, I would think that our government would need all the money it can get to help with all the bailouts now in fashion.  Second, what is the difference between workers and families, as workers get a $500 tax cut/rebate and families get a $1000 one.  If you have two workers filing taxes together, is that a family?  Is it still a family if it is one worker and children?  And, what if you don’t file taxes for whatever reason, do you still get the money?  And how would you get it?

I have to say, and I am sure this is going to come off as not being compassionate enough but I will jump in with both feet anyway, that I don’t think that extending unemployment benefits is the answer to putting people back to work.  A lot of people, not all just so I don’t get totally slammed, do not necessarily think that any job is a good job.  Let’s take where I live for instance.  If I were to lose my current job, it is totally possible that I may have to take a temporary job in retail over the holidays while looking for a better paying position.  It is also totally possible that I may have to resort to two or three lesser paying jobs to fit into my life and make what I need to pay my bills.  You will notice that no where in those few statements did I indicate that the government owes me anything because I am unemployed.

I am also extraordinarily concerned about a proposal in the plan that calls for “Penalty-free hardship withdrawals from IRAs and 401(k)s in 2008 and 2009.”  I realize that a lot of hardworking people need this money now for reasons that are beyond their control.  Unfortunately, these are the people that are also, most likely, easily scared about the market and the economy.  To allow them to take money out of their IRAs and 401(k)s without penalty will keep a few in their homes a bit longer but what will they do when their retirement comes and that money is no longer there?  Will they then expect the government to help fund their retirement?

The relief offered for homeowners in the plan confuses me.  Many things are unnecessary.  There is the recommendation for a 10% tax credit on interest paid on mortgage if you do not itemize your taxes.  Is it that difficult to itemize to get the existing tax incentives?  Not that I recall.  I also wonder who decides what “acting in good faith” is.  There are, I am sure, homeowners who are in the start, or middle or even the end, of the foreclosure process who were acting in what they thought was good faith.  Does society reward them even though intelligence would have told them that they couldn’t afford the mortgage they were signing for?  This all goes back to personal responsibility which is something that few people are talking about in this election.  It was a point in the vice-presidential debate and on night three at the Republican National Convention.

I also do not find it a new proposal to state – as is done in the Obama/Biden plan – that the federal government needs to use all the tools currently allowed it under the “rescue” – commonly referred to as a bailout by me – plan already inacted by Congress.  Why else would Congress have passed such a law if not intended to be used?


Everything I Learned

Remember the essay “Everything I Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten”?  I love that essay!  It talks about how all those things we do in kindergarten are needed for life – getting along, sharing, napping.

This morning I opened my email from Sparkpeople.com and found an equally good piece – how we can learn healthy living from children.

Sometimes the Littlest People Know the Most

Forget about talk radio, research labs, late night TV, or a magazine rack full of scantily clad cover models. Everything you need to know about fitness and nutrition, you can learn from your kids.

Here are 11 things children can teach you about healthy living:

  1. Everything can be a game. Why slog through the same workout routines in boredom, when you can add a little fun? Make up rules, shoot for personal records, and regain your competitive spirit.
  2. Don’t walk when you can run. Every day is full of opportunities to increase your fitness. This rule is closely related to “don’t drive when you can walk.”
  3. If you don’t like it, don’t eat it. Chances are, your eating habits won’t stick around long if you hate what you’re eating. Healthy eating involves balance and moderation.
  4. Laughter feels good. Kids seem to inherently know that laughter can ease blood pressure, help your brain function, give you energy, and help you reach your goals.
  5. Playtime is important. We get so caught up in work, and “have-to’s” that we forget to take time for ourselves. Not only does relaxing make life worthwhile, it has real health benefits.
  6. The world should be full of color–especially on your dinner plate! Splash it with as many colors as possible; paint it like a rainbow with food. It’s more fun to look at, the most colorful produce options often pack the most nutrients, and chances are you’ll be eating a healthy, balanced meal.
  7. It’s always more fun with friends around. Children tend to gravitate toward other children. It gives them spirit and makes them want to play all day. Working out with other people is almost like having your own little playgroup.
  8. Adventures are found outside, not inside. Every kid knows that the good stuff is in the great outdoors–fresh air, wide open spaces, limitless possibilities. You can’t find those things cooped up in a tiny, stale gym. Open the door and start a new adventure every day.
  9. It’s important to use your imagination. You can be Major Fantasia or Stupendous Woman any time you want. Give yourself permission to believe in your own super powers and let your mind take you wherever it wants to go.
  10. Anything is possible. No fear, no self-doubts, no negative self talk, no self-criticism, no worries, no destructive anxieties or thoughts of failure. To a child, he/she can do anything. And do you know what? They’re right.
  11. You have your whole life ahead of you. Here’s your chance to do it right.

 

 

I am totally amazed at how right this piece is.  At times, I think kids nowadays also need to be reminded of these things.  So, take a good look at the list and see how you can learn from your children.

 

 

 

 

 

 


Homecoming in Morgantown

It is homecoming weekend in Morgantown, West Virginia.  I remember the homecoming parades and big football games when I spent three years in Morgantown in the early 80′s.  I remember the floats and the celebrations and the Pride of WV marching down the street.  This year’s homecoming opponent is Syracuse and you can see the Countdown to the Kickoff.

An extra added to this year’s homecoming festivities were the former midnight madness to start off the NCAA basketball season.  Mountaineer Madness Friday began at 9:30 pm last night and included all kinds of fun at the Coliseum.  While not quite the thrill of a Midnight Madness, this allowed many more to come out and see the competitions the Mountaineers put on.

Go Mountaineers!

And yes, as an addition, homecoming this year came with an extra special surprise.  Michigan loses to Toledo, its first ever loss to a MAC team.


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