How far do you push others to do what you think is “the right thing?”

You may think this is a huge ethics question.  It can be, that is for sure.  Not this time, though.  This time it is all about family.

My ex’s mother was admitted to a hospital earlier this week for congestive heart failure.  After a diuretic and rest and observation, she was released.  It is my understanding she basically told the doctor she didn’t want paddles or a pacemaker or a ventilator if it came to that.  She will be 86 this year and says that she is ready for whatever God has in store for her.

If you read here frequently, you will know that my ex had emergency brain surgery about six weeks ago.  He cannot drive from upstate New York to South Carolina.  I am not totally sure that his going in a weekend, even this upcoming long weekend and without having to drive, is a totally good idea.  That is the idea I am pushing, though.

We have six children.  Four of them are licensed drivers.  A fifth is a permitted driver – which I believe does not work in other states but a driver non the less.  The six kids and their dad could go to South Carolina.  At least one of our college-aged kids has not yet started summer work so does not have to be back by Monday evening.  My ex could stay longer.

My thought, as it has been in previous situations, is that it is better to go visit now while gramma is still alive than to go to South Carolina for a funeral.

Just how far do you push your own opinion?  Do you force an issue like this?