Monthly Archives: April 2007

My spring dose of ….

 

… soccer. It use to be that I thought of March Madness as the start of the travel soccer season. That ended this year as my soccer-playing daughter is in college. So today, in what may be promising to be a nice spring day, I get my spring dose of soccer. Susan’s new college team is scrimmaging the local university.

Two reasons for attending – one, I sit on the board of the youth soccer club whose fields are hosting the event. I should visit them every now and then. Two, I am a soccer parent. I love soccer, particularly if one of my kids is in it. I traveled over 13,000 miles last fall to watch Division 1 Women’s soccer at various locations. Why shouldn’t I travel 3 miles down the road?


Detroit Finally Shows Up for a Game

 

Okay, I admit. I made dinner – a really good turkey bolognese sauce and whole wheat spaghetti. I drank half of a bottle of Shiraz.

I had to pick up my daughter from work at 3. It was annoying to me as I really wanted to watch the San Jose-Detroit hockey game. I went right from the local grocery to picking up the 16 year old from paint balling all day with friends. Needless to say, the hockey game was 2-0, San Jose by the time I turned on the game. That lead to me cooking because I couldn’t watch my beloved Red Wings lose another game to the Sharks.

I watched the first Red Wings’ goal. I watched the second. The half a bottle of Shiraz and I yelled my way through the third period as I was either screaming at the television for the Red Wings to pick it up or I was refereeing between the 16 year old who wanted to watch the NFL draft and the 12 year old who wanted to play Wii.

I was sooooo excited and happy I almost knocked what was left of my wine all over as Detroit finally scored with a little under one and a half minutes left.

Go Wings!


Monthly Visit – Aspirations 2007

I should start with – so much for monthly visits. I haven’t updated my progress on my 2007 aspirations since February. A lot can and has happened since then.

Aspirations 2007 (look for monthly goals a bit later, start February)

Be proactive in finding new friends and possibly a more than friend interest. I just am not sure that romantic interest is the right word but maybe it is. I am doing better withthis. I have several new friends that I talk with a lot. I am not exactly being proactive, though.That was then, this is now. I am being slightly more proactive in some ways. I tend to copy my 360 blog to an online dating site when I make entries. I do respond to all the “eye contacts” and messages but I am still a bit hesitant in other ways. When do I stop corresponding and start talking? When do I take something still rather “virtual” – as in we have not met in person – to something “in real life?”

Submit art and get published. I am also, as a way to get published, going to look ahead to the themes major art magazines will have in 2006 so that I may have a creation on hand to submit. I have left this aside. I still haven’t gotten to this either. I did host a swap, though.

Lead Simple Abundance faithfully this year. Be sure to post a starter to each monthly thread. I have done this so far this year, but it is only two months in. I have not looked at this too well. I have started each monthly thread but have not had the time to be involved as I would like.

Be more active as a mod at OrganizedHome.com. Simply by doing the aspiration above better, I am being more active at OH.com. I am not getting into other threads too much, though, and probably should.I missed a huge change at OH. I am going to make myself more available.

Read a total of 30 books this year – including re-reads. I have two books down – the fourth Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants book and just finished yesterday, Meg Cabot’s Size 14 Isn’t Fat Either. I am almost done with another book also. I keep this list on my refrigerator. I am starting my eighth book for the year today – Abraham by Bruce Feiler. I do think that I tend to bunch my reading more into the summer.

Fitness 1 – I will walk 400 miles this year. Nothing big on this count or the two below this. Now that the weather is getting better, I am planning my walking. I tend to plan it around the kids’ schedules but will get much better with this as the good weather rolls on.

Fitness 2 – I will wear my pedometer faithfully. I am always wearing my pedometer now. I still do not keep a good track of daily steps yet, though.

Fitness 3 – I will find an additional – strength – fitness outlet. Nothing big on this front.


Budget 1 – I will pay down my debt. I am working on this slowly. Still.

Budget 2 – I will put at least 10% of my earnings to savings. 10% hasn’t gone into savings but some has. Some unexpected expenses have eaten away at this a bit but I am working on getting back what I needed to expend and putting more there.

I will become adept at utilizing menu planning so as to maximize the money spent on food and the variety in our diets. I haven’t done this well but am utilizing it somewhat. Still working on this item.


Finding Men – Oprah Style

 

Okay, so it is 6:35 in the morning on a Saturday and I just finished watching yesterday’s Oprah show about finding men over 35. I really don’t know that there was any ground breaking news on this show but a lot of confirmation of things women probably already know.

You need to project an image, an aura that you are available and you are confident. Guys pick up on it. I know this to be true and have even had friends – female friends – comment on it. When I am evidently on my game, I do project these “vibes,” for lack of a better term, and men do get it.

The whole “dress for success” – my terminology, not the show’s – is true, too. Who wants to invest time into being with a slob? I come and go on this account. I started this year off with a bang and made sure I was looking good every time I left my house. Didn’t matter if I was going to church, the grocery, the kids’ school – I did it. I have slacked off a bit lately but will be sure to get back into it.

And, if you missed the show, on Oprah’s site are pics and info on some of the men – though all are not over 35.


Political Junkie – or MY Take on Last Night’s Debate

 

Debate, you say? What debate? Earlier I did a blog entry on the early political season. I admitted then, or think I did, and admit now that I am a political junkie. Part of that is work – I do contract work for a company that deals with political campaigns; part of it is information – I truly believe it is the voter’s responsibility to be informed; part of it is just plain interest.

So to feed my political habit, I sat down in the last of our non-rain weather last evening and watched two-thirds of the Democratic presidential candidates’ debate. It was set on the campus of South Carolina State University – a beautiful campus from what I can tell – and involved eight candidates – even more than my junkie habit knew about. See, right there I learned something! I had heard about the big names – Clinton, Edwards, Kucinich, Obama, Richardson. I knew Biden was thinking about it. I didn’t realize Dodd was thinking of it. I didn’t even know who Mike Gravel was.

Of course, the entire debate had to start with questions about Iraq. It seems to be the biggest issue going. I would have thought that homeland security would have topped the list but not at this debate. There were big surprises here.

Clinton said this is not America’s war to win or lose. It is up to the Iraqi people.

Biden said the President’s philosophy is fundamentally flawed but can we leave Iraq and not leave it in chaos? He briefly outlined a decentralized Iraq with a limited centralized government to divide the oil wealth equitably.

Obama reiterated that he has opposed the war from the start and that he presented a plan in January that mirrors recent resolutions passed in Congress.

Edwards continued with his apology for his vote, when he was in the Senate, to approve the war. He took a shot at Clinton as she hasn’t apologized. He went on to say that the next president needs to restore the trust between the office of the president and the US people and then between the US and the world. Clinton’s rebuttal simply was a statement that she voted with the best information available at that time.

Kucinich was the only sitting lawmaker that had voted no on the war from the start. He stated taht voting to continue funding the war is seen as voting to re-authorize it. He also mentioned HR 1234 which deals with peacekeepers in the region.

Richardson said he would NOT, if he were in Congress, vote to continue funding. He said if he were president he would withdraw all troops by the end of this calendar year but with a three prong diplomatic policy – a political framework, security conference including Iran and Syria as the Middle East needs to take care of itself, and a donor conference so the cost of rebuilding is born by many, not just a few.

Dodd talked about sponsorship of the Feingold-Reid bill in the Senate. He stated that the US is more isolated in the world due to the current policy in Iraq. He also stated that the Iraqi people need to assume the responsibiltiy of their own future.

Gravel – the pronunciation of his name is with the emphasis on the second syllable and reminds me of the British comedy Keeping Up Appearances and the Buckets – said the war was lost when we invaded based on a fradulent basis. He stated he was embarrassed by the Congress and suggested we get out by passing a law making the war illegal, not by passing resolutions with timelines.

Obama was asked about what mission complete status would look like. He sort of side-stepped the question. He used it as a basis to say we need to increase the size of our armed forces – though presented no plan as to how to do this.

When Richardson was questioned as to why he was the last candidate to call for the resignation of Alberto Gonzalez and that he said one reason was because Gonzalez was Hispanic, he did not deny saying the Hispanic part. He did say he was waiting for Gonzalez to have a chance to explain himself. When Gonzalez did not answer or explain in his testimony to Congress, Richardson did call for his resignation.

When Kucinich was questioned about being anti-war before it was popular, he simply stated that war as a matter of policy doesn’t reflect America’s greatness. That is a powerful sound bite that may not make it far as it was not said by a frontrunner.

Biden drew what I heard as the only audience response. The audience had been asked not to applaud so as to move the debate along. Biden was asked about his long-windedness. He simply answered with one word, illiciting laughs from the crowd.

Gravel actually said, after complaining he felt like a potted plant as he had not been asked as many items as the others, that some of the candidates on the stage frightened him.

I truly believe the Clinton sound bite of the night was when she said she would create alliances as president, instead of alienations.

On the issue of abortion – always a hot topic but even more so due to last week’s Supreme Court ruling against partial birth abortion, those given the chance to reply – Edwards, Obama, Biden, Kucinich, and Dodd – all discussed how a Supreme Court nominee would reflect their values. Also they discussed the difficulty of the decision on the woman and her family. Edwards stated that abortion is an extraordinarily difficult issue for the US people and that we need to respect the opinions of those who do not agree with us on this issue. Obama thinks we should look to preventing the need for these types of decision – areas we can all agree on such as lowering teenage pregnancy rates. Biden said that the recent Supreme Court decision was intellectually dishonest and the danger is the rationale offered which is setting up the steps for the Court to overturn Roe v. Wade. Kucinich said the issue calls for compassion. Dodd pointed to his disappointment in Chief Justice Roberts, whom he voted to confirm, as Roberts had said he would uphold precendent and this opinion did not.

Clinton did state that the federal government had failed those shot at Virginia Tech, that the federal government needs to do more to keep guns out of the hands of criminals and those who are mentally unstable.

Richardson, who is the NRA’s favorite candidate of all those announced – Republican and Democrat, toed the line. He stated that the vast majority of gun owners are law abiding. The Virginia Tech issue deals more with mental illness and instant background checks.

Biden feels the federal government should not have let the assault weapons ban lapse. It should close the gun show loophole and look more closely at mental illness, including the ability for a college to remove students when grave concern is expressed by professors.

There was more but this is already really long. I think that the moderator, NBC’s Brian Williams, played favorites to Clinton. She had more rebuttal time than anyone. I think Gravel was right. He was largely ignored. I think that the moderator, when doing quick fire questions that all were to answer, should not have always started in the same place. Everyone knows that no politician is going to be quick when length will take time away from the opponent. Unlike most national news people, I do not believe that Clinton gained the most. I do think that all were fairly polite and took more shots at the current administration than each other – a good things since it is months before anyone votes and the mud can’t start yet.


Oprah Show Intriguing

I have, in the past, written about online dating so I was definitely intrigued by the spot for Oprah’s show this afternoon. The teaser talks about the top places to find men over 35. That’s one for the DVR!


Earth Day 2007

 

I am a bit late – except for where I live as there is a huge EarthFest this coming weekend at the local community college. Earth Day is a wonderful day! Unfortunately, I am afraid it is just becoming another date on people’s calendars and is not truly helping to get the planet in better shape in the US.

While I know people think that they can do little to help with a global problem, I have a few suggestions.

  1. Go to Reduce Your Carbon and reduce the carbon output of yourself, your family, and possibly your workplace.
  2. Watch An Inconvient Truth and visit its official web site for more information on the global warming crisis.
  3. Find out how to compost and why it is a good thing.

Make this year the year you make a difference for the Earth!


Let’s All Act Like Adults

 

I had toyed with a run for board of education again this year. I did run one time before but lost the seat. Now, after having made time to go to the board meeting last evening, I am glad I made the decision to not run.

First, at the previous meeting, the superintendent had asked for dates people were or were not, which ever was easier, available for a series of workshops. In my adult mind, this would mean that prior to the meeting last night, all board members should email the superintendent dates for these workshops so he could present the dates at the meeting. I should have known better than to expect this type of coordination. I sat in the library during the meeting and listened as seven board members through out dates and yeses and nos – some without calendars in front of them to know – until some possible dates were decided on for these meetings.

Then, came the absolute kicker for me. I admit I live by my calendar. I am constantly asking that the non-profit board I sit on to keep the meetings on the scheduled dates. I have put these on my calendar in October of last year for a year. I would do the same if I were on the board of education. Board meetings are the second and fourth Thursday of every month. The first meeting of the fiscal year – the second Thursday in July – is always the reorganization meeting. No one should have any questions about this. Well, last night, one person stated they couldn’t make the second Thursday in July and was hoping that the scheduled meeting could be changed. This went back and forth with another member stating out loud that she would not vote for a date that all members could not be at. It was absolutely ridiculous to watch the banter back and forth. The member who cannot be in attendance on the second Thursday of July made a conscious decision to schedule out-of-town family travel for that date. The meeting was there. It should not have been changed. Now, for the want of one, six others are being made to rearrange.


I can remember ….

 

In my innocence, I can remember when the only things we discussed in April were shower, May flowers and Earth Day. I know that this dates me.

April has always been a month of new awakenings. Spring comes to its fullest as the snow finally disappears and the robins can be spotted in Upstate NY. Flowers, the first of the season like daffodils, crocuses and tulips, pop up and are visible and brilliant in the hues.

Now, April is a month of horrible dates. The horribleness started almost 15 years ago when David Koresh holed up in Waco, Texas at the Branched Davidian complex. The death, fire and shoot-outs here were shocking images at the time. To some of us, they still are. Seventy-four men, women, and children died marring the spring days on April 19th, 1993.

Then came 1995. A new term was heard on newscasts across the US – home-grown terrorist. Two US citizens planned and carried out the bombing of the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City. Another dark April 19th in US history. This one claiming 168 lives in the bombing and one life in June of 2001 as one of the planners, Timothy McVeigh, was executed.

Spring bloomed again brightly for several years. While there were memorials and memories of the death and destruction, there were no incidences until that April morning in Columbine, Colorado. Who would have thought sending a child to school, public school, could be deadly? When the two students were done shooting on April 20th, 1999, they had killed 12 fellow students, one teacher and themselves.

Now, with April finally holding the promise of spring, more death and destruction has hit. The shootings at Virginia Tech has claimed 33 lives, 32 students and faculty members and the killer – also a student.

The bright colors of those spring flowers have been overshadowed again by the blood of innocents. The red that April will claim as its in history will not be that of a tulip but that of the blood shed by those who were murder in this month of spring.


Will Virginia Tech’s tragedy change the way a nation thinks?

I know that it is truly too soon to tell if the slaughter on the Virginia Tech campus in Blacksburg, Virginia will have enough influence to change the way America thinks about guns, the second amendment and gun control. Worse, I don’t know that any national tragedy has ever permanently change the way the US, as a nation, thinks.

What needs to change is the way we, as individuals, think. I noticed, and it may be the close proximity to the tragedy but I hope not, today that I was much more vigilant, for lack of a better word.

I was on the campus of a local university. It is not an oddity as my ex works there and I usually go over at least once a month to pick up a child support check. When we were married and our children were young, I was on campus all the time because our children went to the preschool on campus that is for students, faculty, staff and then community members in that order of preference. I was an officer on the board of directors. I know the campus, though there has been and continues to be a lot of building as it becomes a more popular choice for college students.

Anyway, as I pulled onto campus today through the main entrance, it struck me at how open and easy it is to get on campus. I am not saying this is good or bad. I am just making an observation. There is an information kiosk as you enter campus so that visitors can get parking passes and such but traffic is not required to go through this area to proceed to the rest of campus.

As is my norm now – due to construction, I parked in a metered spot in front of the administration building and walked across the quad to get to the building I was headed to. Additional construction on campus meant I had to walk around the building to get in. I noticed not just students but a lot of other people. I could distinguish some as students by their age, some as professors or lecturers by their accessories but there were more. There were a lot of construction workers. Construction is, fortunately for the campuses as it means they need more space but unfortunately for security as it adds to background noise and the people that are on campus, a commonplace thing for college campuses recently. I saw several men that I presume to be working on the construction projects ongoing at this particular campus. It is possible they were actually physical plant employees. The long and the short is they were wearing toolbelts or tool vests. There were no ID cards distinguishing them from other adults.

I don’t recall every looking around at what other people walking on campus were doing. Today, I did. I watched when someone would speak to someone else. I watched as people came in and out of buildings I went by. I watched the way people walked, carried themselves. I was more observant.

While being more vigilant and observant would probably not have prevented the happenings at Virginia Tech, no one knows. While the tragedy may not shape the direction of gun control and second amendment discussions, the tragedy should shape the things we, as individuals, take in and digest as we are out and about in our worlds.


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